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That really stinks, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Technically, the guests are not in ‘trouble’ (for lack of a better word) until after the deadline, and even then some people might send their RSVP through the mail on the day of the deadline. If I were in your shoes, I would wait until a week after the deadline, and then call the people who did not RSVP.

I'm in a similar situation. My RSVP date is June 15th and I haven't gotten any in awhile, but I got 2 yesterday and 4 today, so the momentum is starting to pick back up. You usually have the people who are go-getters and those who are procrastinators.

I had the same problem! At the beginning I was so happy to get several every day and that lasted about a week and a half. I got a little cocky thinking I was going to get them all back (haha, I can laugh at myself for this now). The deadline was June 1 for me and I decided to give people until the end of this week before I started tracking them down. Today, I started to contact people directly by dividing people up between myself, my fiancé and our mothers. We just sent out texts and luckily most have responded already. It’s annoying to say the least, but luckily people have been relatively responsive so I’m hoping that keeps up. Hang in there, I know how you are feeling!

Aw I'm sorry. It's super annoying when people don't follow the deadline date.it happens a lot sadly. People just don't really take weddings as seriously as we would like them to sometimes. Also don't be surprised when people change their RSVPs

Can you call your family?

Family members often think to themselves "She already knows we're coming", so they don't bother to send the RSVP back. Call, email, or text them that you are "looking forward to their reply." It's a friendly way of saying "You do need to send it back".

Same here! We sent our invitations on May 2nd and got a good amount back; mostly my family. Barely anyone from my fiance's side has RSVP'd. I truly believe they think we just know they're coming and they don't need to send the RSVP card back smh.

In a week or two, we'll follow up with everyone who hasn't RSVP'd and remind them of the deadline; which is July 10th.

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Ohh! This is good wording. Thanks so much!!!

This is very common, from what I read. Lots of people don't put the card in the mail until the due date. Others feel like, "oh yeah, she knows I'm coming," without giving a thought to the fact that you and your venue need a hard yes or no from everyone.

I've read so many of these stories, I feel like I need to put something out there to the world at large: WHEN YOU GET A WEDDING INVITATION, SEND BACK THE RSVP!!! It doesn't even matter what your answer is (yes or no), as long as you send back the card.

What surprises me the most is that many of the people who think "she knows I'm coming" are people who have gotten married, planned a wedding, and KNOW how important this step is!! Yet, they don't care when it's someone else's wedding! Ugh. So frustrating.