rsvp Frustrations

You all I really thought my guest list would have been different. It's a smallish list of close family and friends. We are 1 week from the deadline to rsvp and I still have over half of the list who hasn't rsvpd. I assumed I'd have to follow up with some people, not the majority of the list. The only reason as many rsvpd so far is because I reminded a few people on my side about the deadline coming up. I get it, people forget. But they've only had the invites a couple of weeks. Most people (family and friends) have said oh do I still need to do that? You know I'm coming 🤦‍♀️ I'm afraid people aren't taking this seriously. This is the first big wedding among my social group for a lot of people. My man of honor and I were talking recently and I said I hope people show up bc I won't be happy if my $10,000 is wasted. He got married in May and was shocked I spent that much. He had a backyard BBQ wedding with like 20 people. He said to me it's nob wonder why you're so on top of all of this. Like it's not easy to put together a wedding basically alone in less than a year. Sorry I just needed to rant in a safe space.