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Dedicated October 2018

rsvp frustration

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Jennifer, on September 12, 2018 at 8:41 PM

Little rant! I don't understand how the couples that were just posting all over Facebook about how people don't have the common courtesy to RSVP when sent wedding invitations are now the ones I'm sitting here waiting to hear from. I have 21 RSVPs I'm still waiting on and our RSVP deadline is this Saturday. Quite a few of these people just got married within the last 2 years. Clearly they know the frustration yet they're doing the same thing they complained about. I reached out to one of the couples that we were waiting to hear from today. (Ordering stuff to make gift bags for our out of town guests) When I asked if they had recieved their invitation and if they needed any help booking their hotel they replied with "yeah we got your invitation. We wont be able to make the wedding. We just planned to mail you your wedding gift after your wedding was done and things had calmed down for you" Why can't people just RSVP? I even made it super easy and completely filled out the return envelopes with our address and theirs. Its pre stamped. All they have to do is check yes or no and write the number next to how many people are coming and stick it in their mailbox. Why is getting RSVPs back like pulling teeth? Ugh I'm just frustrated.

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Devoted October 2018
Lisa · on September 13, 2018 at 4:05 PM
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I am in the same boat. It is driving me NUTS that people can't send back the RSVP card. Like I addressed it and stamped it, you can't check a box and stick it in the mail??
I have 33 RSVP's I'm still waiting on and our deadline is 9/21.
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Expert October 2018
BabsandBear · on September 13, 2018 at 4:14 PM
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A lot of people wait until the last minute to RSVP. I had 40 guests rsvp about 4 days before the wedding and then 3 on the actual deadline day. I gave everyone reminders...via phone call or text message. I gave them each three heads up about it. I was pretty strict on mine because my rental lady is making a custom seating chart sign for us and they needed to know the names. Also I'm getting special placement cards that needed to be ordered in advanced. Just be patient and give them fair warning and chance. Obvioulsy day of the deadline you can send a final reminder and say, "if you don't respond I will not be counting you for a seat or for food" or something along those lines.
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Andrea · on September 13, 2018 at 4:46 PM
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When it's time for me to mail my invitations, people are going to have to either call me and my fiance, or RSVP on our wedding websites. I have no time to wait for mail to come in. It's too much. I am so sorry you have to go through with this. Weddings can be very stressful and people knowing deadlines and not taking them seriously is very disrespectful and inconsiderate. As though it's nothing to them.
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Expert October 2018
Meesh · on September 14, 2018 at 9:54 PM
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UGH YESSSS THISSS DRIIIVEESS MMEEEEE NUTTTSSSS
We invited around 95 people, so far 70 have responded yes, and a few are even traveling from another state which means a lot to us. But one person who hasn't replied is actually IN my wedding! And others sent me a picture of the invite saying how excited they were when they got it, yet they haven't sent the darn RSVP card back!
Our deadline is also tomorrow, and I am pending several people. I decided to give them till Wed. in case they mailed theirs out ON the RSVP date, and then I guess it's time to start reaching out to people. Super frustrating!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr
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Dedicated October 2018
Jennifer · on September 14, 2018 at 10:03 PM
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I'm guilty of not sending the RSVP card back when I'm in the wedding. I never sent my sister her RSVP responding to her wedding because she already knew I'd be there since I was in the wedding, my son was the ring bearer, and my FH was one of the guys shuddling people from the parking lot to the ceremony/reception area.

I'm at the point now that the people I'm waiting on make or break me still needing my last table or 2. Since I'm DIY all my decorations and centerpieces it'd be nice to know if I actually need to make those tables centerpieces or if I can spend that time working on something else.
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Expert October 2018
Meesh · on September 15, 2018 at 12:58 PM
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I hear you! My problem is, this bridesmaid is single, and I don't know if she is planning on bringing a "plus one" which I need to know for the final headcount. One of my other bridesmaids straight up lost her RSVP card but she told me verbally. But yes, the stragglers definitely annoy me, especially when you are at or past the due date!
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Savvy October 2018
Aszha · on September 18, 2018 at 3:19 PM
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Same! That's why I made the RSVP super early because I just knew that people would still procrastinate!
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