rsvp for Destination Wedding Save the Dates?

Maybe you could say something along the lines of:


In order to help us choose an appropriately sized venue, please take a moment to let us know the probability of your attendance“

Amendment: we would appreciate it if you could take a moment to let us know the probability of your attendance

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Yes, this could work! Thank you! Do you think we should do RSVP cards, ask them to text or email?

View Quoted Comment After hearing from so many brides how difficult it is to get people to send back RSVP cards for the actual wedding, I if feeling it would be even harder to get them to do it with a STD. I would probably try to make it as easy/least amount of effort as possible, to increase your chances of them following through. Text message would probably be easiest, since everybody is constantly on their phones anyway lol Older guests who maybe don’t text could just call you (although I’m not sure if there are people who don’t text anymore, even my grandma texts me all the all time haha)

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I agree, I think text/email would be the easiest option. Thanks again!

View Quoted Comment You bet! After being the MOH in one of my best friend’s destination wedding, I have a whole new appreciation for the struggles of choosing a venue when you have no idea if 100 people will show up, or 10! Hopefully this will give you a better idea of how many people you need to plan for!

Communicate via email/phone. If you add an rsvp to a save the date, you will potentially confuse people. Also a save the date requires an invite following. So if you know you don't want or are able to invite them officially, don't send them a save the save the date. Discuss in a regular conversation that you are planning an international wedding and in order to get something within your budget, you need an accurate estimate of who will be most likely able to attend. If they know they aren't able to travel, just send an announcement later.

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Yeah I don't think a full RSVP is needed.. I don't want to confuse anyone. I just want to add a little note to the STD ask for the probability of them traveling for the wedding.

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In that case, just have the phone conversations with everyone on your potential guest list. Only send save the date cards to those who commit over the phone. That number will affect your venue size, your catering bill (you don't want to get stuck with a 100 person minimum and only 45 are able to show so you potentially have to pay extra fines) and everything else.

My cousin did this by making personal phone calls and I honestly think that's the best way to go. His parents made calls too. They had a good idea of who would be going probably a year out because the people who cant/won't travel were very up front by phone.


How many people were you going to send STDs to?

View Quoted Comment We’ve already narrowed our guest list down significantly because it’s a destination waiting. STD will go to about 50-60 (some I already know will decline but don’t wanna leave them without the option). We’re thinking (based off prior conversations, travel restrictions due to health, etc) that we will end up with about 30 guests.

View Quoted Comment Okay so thats not too many people. And what size venues are you between? Because if you are looking at a 40 max venue, you might get enough declines by phone without going through the whole list

View Quoted Comment The max for the venue we want is 60. Our wedding package includes 20 guests. I’m guessing we’ll be somewhere in the middle.