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Just Said Yes April 2019

rsvp for Ceremony and Reception

Kjandyce, on February 26, 2019 at 10:17 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 25

Wondering if its necessary to have guests RSVP for both the ceremony and reception, only for those who are invited to both of course. I'm just concerned that some guests will RSVP but only show up to one. Our guest count for both determines our food amount and more that can raise or lower the price. Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Kjandyce, on March 8, 2019 at 4:02 PM
  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    You only need one rsvp for both. Most people stay for both or can't come at all. Are there people you are inviting to one and not the other though?

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Only for those who are invited to both? Are there some who are only invited to one or the other?
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  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·
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    I am a little confused. Are you not inviting all the guests to attend both ceremony and reception?

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Unless there’s a big gap between your ceremony and reception, most guests will attend both. Your RSVP is for your entire event.

    Is there a reason why you think guests might only attend one or the other?
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  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Kjandyce ·
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    We have 75 people invited to the ceremony than 75 additional people to the reception. So all together we 150 guests coming to the reception but only 75 of those people are invited to the ceremony. My fear is the guests invited to BOTH the ceremony and reception RSVP then only show up to one, hopefully that makes a little more sense

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  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Kjandyce ·
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    Okay great. Between we have a "social hour" with drinks and appetizers while the wedding party is doing pictures, that's the only gap.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    This is extremely rude. They should be invited to all or nothing. One RSVP.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Kjandyce ·
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    That's how we do it where I'm from. No need to bash.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    Why are you inviting less to the ceremony? That's a pretty rude thing to do...


    To answer your question you only need one RSVP for both events but everyone should be invited to both events. Tiered weddings are so wrong.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It doesn’t matter where you’re from. Telling your friends “we invited half of our guest list to the ceremony, but you didn’t make the cut,” is rude. No way around it.
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  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·
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    You should definitely count and expect all 150 guests to be at the reception ( your food count).

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    This is considered a tiered wedding and is extremely rude. You're basically telling 75 people that they are good enough to come to the reception and bring you gifts but not good enough to witness the most important part of the day. This is only appropriate if it's only immediate family at your ceremony but that's obviously not the case.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Ok, so after reading your post and previous comments.....I'd say that the ones you plan to invite to the ceremony & reception get a "normal" wedding invitation that includes one RSVP. The ones you plan to only invite to the reception get a different/separate invitation that specifies a reception only and includes one RSVP. The guests that are invited to both won't be confused, because a wedding invitation should state something along the lines of "You're invited to the wedding of Jane Smith & John Doe, reception to follow."

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  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Kjandyce ·
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    That is exactly the case. We only want family at the ceremony.

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    You have 75 immediate family members?
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    Woah. I asked a very simple question. Not judging. Chill.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    No, just the wedding as a whole! Usually the guest count for the ceremony doesn't matter.

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  • Leah
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Leah ·
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    I don't think it's extremely rude at all. Our ceremony is in my FH's family church which only can fit 80 people, yet our reception is 150. Therefore, the ceremony is private and for family only. Most loved ones you'd invite to a wedding should be understanding of that. Especially considering they are your loved ones...

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You might not find it rude, but that doesn't mean that your guests (and most other people) don't. It's one thing to have an intimate ceremony with immediate family only, it's another thing to tell your guests "we could invite over half of our guest list to the ceremony, unfortunately, you weren't important enough to witness our marriage."

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  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
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    I agree with Danielle on this one and think it's best to just separate the invitations.

    On here, I see a lot of "it's your wedding so do what you want, there aren't any rules, etc."
    So if this is what works best for you and your FS, then go for it.
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