rsvp Etiquette

You should absolutely follow up. A lot of times people are just careless. Other times, the RSVP may have gotten lost in the mail. I have been following up with all my guests who I was waiting from, and a surprising amount are yeses that just never got around to dropping the card in the mail. I've just sent a text to most people, and they've gotten back to me quickly.

I think some people get them and intend to reply but it kind of just gets lost in their mail pile and they forget. Either way - follow up!

I agree to definitely follow up. My FH never gave me an invite he got for his friend’s wedding in March, therefore the RSVP never got sent back. He said he was waiting to find out if he could get time off and it got buried and forgotten. We ended up not being able to attend, but I felt really bad they had to try and track us down for an answer. You never know what happens after you drop the invite into the mailbox, so yes it is frustrating and rude when people don’t respond in a timely manner, chances are they didn’t do it intentionally to annoy you or be disrespectful- life just happens. I also think people who haven’t planned a wedding (or haven’t done it recently) don’t realize how important it is to get RSVPs by a certain date. Good luck!

No also remember things get lost in the mail set aside and forgotten.

Yea some people are so bad about it and it can be so frustrating. Some people will definitely not rsvp and you just have to ask them

You definitely need to follow up and touch base with them
Some people may have forgot to rsvp and plan to attend.
If you dont follow up, you might have some people show up with guests and claim they mailed the rsvp back