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We haven't sent ours out yet, but what we have decided to do is contact anyone who has not responded. If we don't hear from them in a predetermined period of time, they will be taken off of the list. If you don't feel like contacting your friends-don't bc in sure there was plenty of time allotted to RSVP. However, I would cautious in not contacting them unless you (or your DOC/whoever is running the show that day) are prepared to be firm in telling them that there is no space available for them in the event that they show up that day. I'm never really a fan of policing adults, but in this instance I personally would rather deal with contacting people ahead of time than someone handling it the day of the wedding.

I think you should at least reach out ine time just in case anyone's rsvp got list in the mail.

My RSVP date is tomorrow but I'm giving them till Friday, just because I figure some people will see the RSVP date and sent it out on that day..

I gave myself about a week to follow up with guests. I started contacting people 2 days after the RSVP deadline (to give a little leeway for the mail). We had to follow up with about 5 people/couples/families and they had forgotten to send it in, so waiting wouldn't have helped lol.

I sent a text and email out to anyone that hadn't responded about 2 weeks from the deadline. We received some responses. For the remainder, I stuck to our cutoff date as I felt the 2 week notification prior to that was enough. We had only 1 person respond post the deadline but they did text and ask if it was okay. Since it was someone that I was very surprised I hadn't heard from we let them come. You should definitely reach out prior to making a cutoff.

Our seating chart was due 2 weeks after our RSVP deadline. I gave everyone an extra week before I tracked them down, so that way I still had a week to put my seating chart together.

I made my deadline 2 weeks before I need an estimate. I have a hard cut off from the venue closer to the date, but I need to know roughly a month out for getting other stuff done and for the venue to plan for food. I am going to wait 4 or 5 days after the deadline then start hunting people down.

I actually started contacting people last week, asking if they received the invitation, if they were planning on coming, etc. I'd end the conversation with ok, well, go ahead and fill out the RSVP and get that back in the mail to me! So I got 4 more today, which is very convenient. But there are still 4 or 5 I'm holding seats for that may never come (people I physically talked to by last Monday). These are all FHs guests, so maybe I'll make him chase them down if they're important to him! Although, my FMIL told me during the week she "has names" for me earlier this week so tomorrow may be a nice surprise! All the people we've invited that are her family have responded so I'm not sure what she'll be giving me!

We did online RSVPing, through our wedding website. All but 2, of 250 invited guests responded before the due date. My father asked his mother to follow-up with my uncle/her son, since he calls her most Sundays. He said he never got around to responding (they probably never actually considered attending, either). Didn't get so much as a congratulatory e-mail from them, either ...

Our RSVP date was Friday 10/23, and I gave people until 10/26 to get back to us. We sent reminder emails/texts/etc to those guests we hadnt heard from a week before the official RSVP date, and then gave 2-3 days grace. After that, if they didn't respond, we didn't track them down.. we have a million other things to do and quite frankly, if you didn't take the courtesy to respond one way or another, it's just rude.

I started tracking people down the week of the deadline. People were being so flaky and I knew we'd have last minute cancellations and no shows. I didn't do a seating chart so I didn't have to mess with that, thank God. The ones who were being wishy washy I just counted as "yes" and it all worked out bc all but 3 ended up coming and we did have last minute cancellations/no shows.

Of course this was easier to be more flexible in bc of no seating chart and a buffet menu vs plated meals that had to be picked by the guests.

At one point I was really stressing out over it and it suggested that I tell people they couldn't come if they rsvp'd late. I couldn't imagine doing that or turning people away, without it causing drama.