RSVP entrée selections

Check with your venue because when the same thing happened to me they said don't worry as long as we have an idea of 4 chicken 3 beef at the table/allergies that's all they need after all... yours might be the same or similar

They are the ones who said they wanted designations on the name cards so dinner service went smoothly. I'm thinking of calling the guests, however my fiancé thinks we shouldn't..

I had this issue too. People do NOT read. I just guessed who picked what and figured they could just trade plates at the table if it was wrong. My favorite was my aunt and uncle, who actually did follow the directions, but have the same initials. Guessed on that one too!

I never thought about this and I already ordered our invitations. Now I wish I had specifically put on the response card to initial what they want.

@Melanie our venue says the same thing, but I guarantee most of our guests will just put Xs. Every wedding I've been to where entrees were selected in advance, the servers still came by and confirmed with each guest. It's easy to swap as long as your counts per entree aren't dramatically off.

As a guest, I usually never remember what I ordered 4-6 weeks ago when I sent the rsvp back. I don't have any food allergies, so unless it's something I cannot stand (mushrooms, yuck lol), I wouldn't even know it wasn't what I ordered. And I'm with pp that they could just swap plates if it gets mixed up. The teacher in me says they can't get upset about a mixup when they didn't follow directions to begin with

We had to supply individual escort cards, that were marked on the back. We used foil stars - gold, silver, and green (vegetarian). We had online responding, through our wedding website, where each guest name was on a line, with a choice of 3 entrees next to their name. It worked out very well.

We also had to provide numbers on the table layout, for the venue's ballroom. We put the number on each table, the number of chairs needed, and the number of each entrée to be delivered.

My RSVPs are coming back with check marks, too. I started to think I would have to call everybody, too, but FH said, "They'll be sitting together, they can just switch plates!" But I was really surprised at how many people don't read directions!

We've gotten about a dozen back so far and ironically the only one to use initials opted not to bring a guest.

I just don't understand...the RSVP clearly states please initial. My FH feels we should just assume the men will be having beef and the women will be having chicken and they can just swap if it's wrong. I feel like this is slightly a sexist assumption..but I don't want to have to call 50 people as over half of the couples chose to put an X next to their selection...ughh

I didn't have entree selections but you know the line that they put their names that has an m_________. Yeah, like 3 guests out of 36 replies have actually used it. Several marked out the m. One even circled it and put a ?

I chose not to have a plated meal for this exact reason. I am in the last to get married in my group of friends. and oh man, this was a really big issue for most of them. so I chose to buffet it. my type A would be too crazy with people NOT READING the directions.

I did buffet too so sorry not much help :/ but it's amazing how many people don't follow instructions

I would just call. It is not like they can get offended because they didn't follow directions. Sorry that it is more work for you!

I just guessed. Like other people previous said, it's not a huge deal for them to just switch plates. No one complained at the wedding =)

I would just ask the people that you are likely to be in contact with, and otherwise randomly assign one of the entrees to each half of the couple and they can switch plates if they need to.

You could also make a single escort card for each couple and mark that with the entree choices and let them decide who is getting what. You might want to check with your venue before going this route if they have specified that they want EACH guest to have a card with their entree choice indicated.

Ughhh I'm in the exact same boat!! People are just marking with a check mark what they want. I don't want to have to call everyone, so I'm letting my venue know which couples got what and they can tell their servers who got the chicken vs steak.

Oh my gosh..this is getting worse by the min. At first I just had a few with checks or X's, however at this point I have almost 90% that did not initial. Now

I'm getting guests adding children..and marking a full meal for them...what??? My invitations clearly state adult reception... I'm not sure what to do.

You could create ONE card for the couple and put both indicators on the card...so.."Mr & Mrs. Doe" Table 5 - and add your two indicators. Let the couple figure out who wants what dish.

For the guests adding children, I would call them and let them know that, sorry, their invitation was only for the adults and only two seats have been reserved. How annoying.