rsvp Due Date Passed

I would wait until the end of the week. Many people wait until the due date to mail the RSVPs. For tech savvy invitees, a text inquiry will probably work best and be sure to tell them that if they haven't responded by X pm on X day they will be considered a no and that you hope to catch up with them after the wedding. Calling the older guests is also probably best.

I would do whatever way you normally contact them- so like you said text message, FB message for those who are more prone to answer those, and then give older members a call. It's super easy to lead into it in conversation because most people will go "how's wedding planning?"

"Oh, great! I was actually reaching out to you because we didn't receive your RSVP, and I wanted to make sure we include you in the final numbers!"

I would give it more time because

1. It's still super super early (my date is 9/2 and my RSVP date still isn't until early august). 75% of my guest list is from OOT too so we mailed them out a little early but aren't requiring them back earlier than they need to be.

2. People wait until the day the RSVP is due to drop it in the mail sometimes.

Since you have so much time I would give people more time as well. You can wait another week and then start contacting.

I agree, when guests are traveling, you send invitations or Save The Dates earlier, not make them respond sooner.

I set a little bit of an early RSVP date because I knew that there'd be a lot of stragglers, but also because the next few weeks before my wedding will be really busy with work stuff and then with family coming in from halfway around the world, so I wanted to be able to get my seating chart and other logistical work done ASAP. By the time our RSVP date passed, we still had about 45 people that hadn't responded. It took us two weeks to get the last of the stragglers to respond - pretty irritating but I'm glad it's done! Just wait a week to account for slow mail or people who think the "deadline" is the same as "put it in the mail this day." Split it up between your guests, FH's, and parents' guests, and have each group reach out via text, call, Facebook PM, or however you think will be easiest for each person - you can even copy and paste the text and facebook messages if you feel like it. It actually takes a lot less time than you'd expect if you do it that way - FH and I just sat down and sent most of our messages in about 15 minutes, and had half of the answers we needed an hour later. The 20 or so remaining were a pain to track down, there will always be a handful of people that want to give you the "I don't know yet, can I have some more time?" or are just MIA when you try to reach them. Good luck!

I think it's okay to start texting/ messaging your tech-savvy guests to ask if they are coming. Give your older friends and family a tiny bit more time in case they threw their RSVP's in the mail on your due date. So long as you don't take an accusatory tone or say something like: "Why haven't you RSVP'ed?!!?!" you'll be fine.

For anyone who asks for more time, you can grant them that but let them know that if you haven't gotten a confirmed answer as of a few days before your final #'s are due, you will have to count them as a no. Don't tell them you're giving your self a cushion before your final numbers are due, though. If they are true procrastinators, telling them that will have them dismissing your new deadline too.

I would wait 1 business week after the deadline 'please RSVP by XYZ", some people may have waited till XYZ or the day after to actually main them