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Dedicated November 2019

rsvp Deadline

Bree, on June 24, 2019 at 1:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27
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Our wedding is November 2nd, 2019 and I'm trying to determine when I need to have my RSVP deadline by. I don't know what the typical protocol is!

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Latest activity by Mary Ann, on June 28, 2019 at 2:09 AM
  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
    CourtneyBrittain ·
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    I would recommend a couple of weeks before your vendors need it, that way you have time to get last minute RSVPs
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I'd check with all your vendors & see when they need final count. Ours was 40 days out, our transportation needed a final count 30 days out. The rest don't need final count until 14 days out. I left myself 10 days to contact guests who didn't RSVP.

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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    Check with your vendors, specifically reception venue and caterer to see when they need final count by, then add a few extra days in order to make those phone calls to the slackers! Smiley winking

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  • Marissa
    Expert August 2019
    Marissa ·
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    I have a deadline of a month before the wedding. My venue needs final headcount two weeks prior so I wanted to leave myself time to catch anybody that did not send back their rsvp.
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  • B
    Dedicated August 2019
    Blag ·
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    You’ll need to have your rsvp deadline 45 days from the wedding date itself. The reason being most venues, vendors etc need all final balances paid in full 30-days from wedding date. that gives you about two weeks to bug those who have not rsvp’ed. and then give your final numbers/any changes etc to the venue and vendors.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    Our wedding is August 10th we did our RSVP for July 15
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    Give yourself two weeks before the venue, rental and cater deadline. They usually request final countdown and you want to have at least a week to hunt down those that didn’t answer you.
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  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
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    My wedding is on November 9, 2019 and our RSVP deadline is September 30th, which gives us about a week or 2 to call up those who haven't responded to get an answer

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I did mine early because I just wanted to give extra time knowing there will be stragglers and so I did mine a month before I needed final counts
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  • Kate
    Devoted November 2019
    Kate ·
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    Date twins Smiley smile agreed with PP's to check your headcount due dates. Most sites recommend mailing 6-8 weeks out, giving guests 3-4 weeks to RSVP, and building in time for you to chase down any stragglers.

    Here's my tentative timeline -

    September 3: Mail invitations (may move this up a hair)
    October 3: RSVP deadline (also our hotel block deadline date)
    October 18: Final #'s due
    November 2: Wedding
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
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    Our wedding is October 13th, and I made our deadline September 15th. Our caterer needed final number by September 24th or 25th so I wanted a few days to contact anyone that didn't RSVP although a good amount already have.

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  • Bree
    Dedicated November 2019
    Bree ·
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    YAY! I haven't met a date twin yet!

    Your timeline is super helpful! Thank you so much!

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    I would say a month before, just incase people dont rsvp and you have to track them down
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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
    Jess ·
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    I set ours as August 31st for a September 28th wedding which is 4 weeks ahead. This way I had time to follow up with those who don't RSVP by the set date before the 2 week deadline is due to vendors with final numbers.

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  • S
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    Most are about a month before. However, go over your contracts and see when your vendors need a final headcount, and then make your RSVP deadline one to two weeks before that so you have time to reach out to stragglers.
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  • Madison
    Devoted August 2019
    Madison ·
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    Here was my timeline:

    May 22nd: Mailed invitations (12 weeks out)

    June 16th: Hotel Room Block ends (9ish weeks out)

    July 19th: RSVP deadline (4 weeks out)

    August 6th: Final headcount due to venue and caterer (10 days out)

    August 16th: Wedding

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  • Mary
    Devoted November 2019
    Mary ·
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    Our wedding is November 5th, 2019 and our RSVP deadline is September 5th so that I have plenty of time before ordering tables, chairs and food!

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  • Kate
    Devoted September 2019
    Kate ·
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    Our caterers need the head count by Aug 13th (4 weeks before our wedding), so our RSVP date is Aug 1st. This gives us 2 full weeks to track down any stragglers.
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  • Beth
    Dedicated October 2020
    Beth ·
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    4 weeks is what my coordinator suggested. That gives you time to contact all of the missing ones before giving final counts to vendors.
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  • Cheryl
    Beginner November 2019
    Cheryl ·
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    We're date twins! I'm asking that our guests RSVP by October 4. Like others have said, is check with your caterer and venue to see when they need their final head count.
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