rsvp date

I've heard of a lot of people who wait until the last day to put it in the mail, which is obnoxious but true.

Personally I wouldn't wait, I'm impatient and I have no tolerance for rudeness lol. Luckily we had most of our RSVPs back by the deadline, but I texted the people who hadn't responded the day after the deadline. Most of them were like "oh I'm sorry, I forgot to tell you but I can't come" -.-

If people still won't give you a straight answer, give them a new deadline for when you put in your headcount to your caterer (even if it's a made-up deadline) and say that you're putting in your headcount by that date and that if they can't give you a solid answer by then, you'll have to mark them down as a "no." For us, our initial RSVP deadline was a Thursday. I texted people on Friday, and gave them until the following Friday to give a final answer or else they'd be marked as a no.

I am going to wait ~3 business days after mine are "due" before I start reaching out to allow for the people who mail them back on the last day to reach us. Once we have to start reaching out, the message will basically be "We didn't hear back from you about if you are able to attend our wedding. Please let us know no later than X date when we have to turn our headcount into our vendor, if you are able to attend, and your meal choice. If we don't hear from you by then we will unfortunately have to consider you as a No"

That way if they don't respond, they will know that they can't just show up. I have also been reaching out to the hotel that the hotel block is at to see who has booked rooms... if I see someone has booked a hotel room, I am assuming they are planning to attend and I might send something different... but we do need to know their meal choice.

I gave a week on mine before I need to call. I gave my RSVP do a month before wedding.

It's very common for guests to either forget to RSVP, dont think they have to RSVP, or don't know to RSVP. How frustrating!
We mailed our invitations in May and started receiving rsvps back right away. However, it slowed down and there's still a lot of people who need to RSVP. Our deadline isn't until July 10th so there's still more time. We purposely made our RSVP date a month in advance to give time for the stragglers.

We waited over a week after our final date. Still missing one. We’ve come to a point where we are just moving on without them. They are from out of town so flights needed to be booked etc. People are just so disrespectful when it comes to this stuff. I have no idea why.
My advice, wait a few days more. Then text and reach out. Be firm. “We need a count” etc... give them a deadline. If nothing then move on.

Yes is common. For some reason people that know they’re going just can’t send the rsvp back on time. I would still reach out to the others as not everyone send it out and others might have not even open it. It would save you some time.

I think some people mistake it as that. We had our RSVP date as last Monday, and after that date we received 2 in the mail. But only 2, and one was from a bridesmaid so I knew she was going. We were waiting on 61 people after our RSVP date, we reached out to all of them, 1 week later we were waiting on 20 this morning and 15 now (we reached out again to the 20).

Lol I had no chill. I called people the day after they were due. No one seemed offended by it. Actually 1 person said they mailed it back ages ago so the mailman lost it. My due date was Saturday. I knew all responses by Sunday.