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Emily, on February 4, 2020 at 10:43 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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So ordering my invitations and trying to find RSVP wording and date. We are doing online RSVP. So I have

“Please R.S.V.P by August 19, 2020 by using our wedding website www.zola.com. We have reserved _____ seats in your honor”
Is that verbiage okay? And is the RSVP date okay? We are getting married September 12. So it’s about 3.5 weeks before
Buuut I wanted to give time to hunt people down and make my seating chart. Is 3.5 weeks too much time to little? My venue and caterer will take changes in occupancy up to 4 days before the date so I’m not worried about that. Is the wording too forward?
I do have it where they can not add anyone else when RSVP but my sister got married a couple of months ago and half of my family brought extra people that my sister didn’t know or invite and they were WAY over there occupancy limit and she RSVP the same way I am. Is that too much to add "we have reserved ___ seats"? I just want to make sure it’s clear not to bring anyone else as we have already at the occupancy limit

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Latest activity by Cherry, on February 5, 2020 at 11:29 AM

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Rachel · on February 4, 2020 at 10:49 PM
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I think the wording is good! I’m going to use something similar when it comes time to send out invites.

Also dumb question but the “we have reserved ___ seats in your honor”... is that a blank I fill in before sending the invite? I’m assuming yes? I too want to make sure that no one brings someone they aren’t supposed to (ie children since we’re having adults only)
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Emily · on February 4, 2020 at 10:52 PM
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Yes! I would fill that in with how many people from their family we invited! Just trying to prevent the worst from happening. I don’t want people to bring others because they would be standing! At 150 we are out of seats

Think that August 19 is a good RSVP by date?
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on February 4, 2020 at 10:53 PM
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The wording and timing both sound fine.
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Rachel · on February 4, 2020 at 11:03 PM
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I would think so, but you may want to push it back a week earlier.. I know I would because I want to give myself a few days to chase down the people who didn’t RSVP and enough time to make the seating chart, get it printed, and give the caterer the final numbers. That’s just how I would do it though because I’m super type A 😂
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Alyssa · on February 4, 2020 at 11:18 PM
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I would have a personal phone conversation with the rude people who brought uninvited guests to your sister’s wedding and let them know that you’re at capacity and if they show up with more people than RSVP they will be turned away.
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Gen · on February 4, 2020 at 11:21 PM
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This all sounds perfect to me. Regarding guests bringing extra people, I don’t think you can be any clearer than you already are being. Just make sure to maybe speak with your venue about this being a concern, and see what they can do to help you out if uninvited guests show up. My venue gave a list of the seating chart to every server. If there wasn’t enough chairs/plates, they’d know something was wrong and would figure out who wasn’t on the list. As long as you’re being clear how many seats are reserved and who is invited, you’re doing all you can do. On the day of the wedding, this should be a venue concern, not a bride concern!
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Grace · on February 5, 2020 at 10:51 AM
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I think it's smart to have "We have reserved _____ seats in your honor." Guests can get very sneaky with these invitations. Lol We did four weeks for our deadline to RSVP.
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Ashley · on February 5, 2020 at 10:53 AM
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I like it, but I agree with giving yourself more time. When do you have to have final numbers to the venue/food? I have to have them 2 weeks before so we are doing 4-5 weeks RSVP due date so that I have time to call if necessary.
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Cherry · on February 5, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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We said "Please RSVP Online by January 15 at www.blahblahblah.com"

We also did ours 30 days out from the wedding date because we knew we'd have stragglers. And we did! A ton of them! We had to hunt people down for weeks! Definitely give yourself a smidge more time. We still have 2 people who may or may not show up - they responded with "maybe" in a Facebook message, and it's throwing off our whole seating chart. We had to make 2 of them because it was the difference between a 6-foot table or an 8-foot table, and it moved about 8 other people around based on personality type. LOL. Good luck!!
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