RSVP date was yesterday... still missing 100 RSVPS!!!

I would call them for sure! im not looking forward to this part of the wedding but leave a voicemail telling them that a seat will not be saved for them if they do not RSVP.. that way they will get back to you with a definite yes or no

I don't know how come I was so blessed but almost all of my RSVPs have come in a day before our deadline (but it was onliine not mail in ... some of the responses were verbal) but what I was prepared to do was send a gentle reminder by email telling them that we need to confirm the head count to the caterer first to those that hadn't sent an rsvp and then a week later start calling persons with the assistance of FH to get their confirmation. My total invitees were 83 though so this would have made it easier.

It might be a long time but whoever you don't get, just leave a message, and if you can, ask persons who are able to you (and willing) if they would assist you.

I am missing about 64 myself. My RSVP date is in two weeks. I have no sympathy for anyone that doesn't reply but I will be calling them myself to let them know I have turned in my numbers and since I didn't receive their RSVP I will assumed they are not coming. I paid for all my postage too. I am pissed.

You will have to get on the phone and call each one. It sucks but you really don't want huge surprises of guests at the last minute. Not fun at all...

*Hey date twin!!* As of my cut off date, I had 120 rsvp's of my 267 invited. I sent a very nice but firm email just letting them know that the deadiline passed and we haven't received their rsvp. I asked them to let us know if they were coming by repling to email, rsvp'n by website or by calling us. I also thanked them in advance for understanding that we would assume that no response would mean they will not be attending. Within the week of sending the email my count is at 180 (190 including declines). While I'm glad folks responded to the email-it ticks me off that I wasted time & money making my invitations, pre-addressing return envelopes and stamping them only to use email and facebook...which is free! It annoys me to no end to think that folks assume its ok to just show up like our wedding is some backyard summer cookout that they may or may not have time for! I'm giving one more week for last contact attempts and thats it.

I plan to give everyone a call the day after my deadline and if I do not hear back from them within a few days, I'm thinking about 3 more, then they will be marked as not attending, I'm not gonna waste time on this, I have a B list to move on to.

Good luck ladies

RSVPs(sighs) I am not looking forward to it...not at all, but I am giving courtesy calls and that's it. I'm trying to figure out would it be tacky if I was to put "if you don't reply don't come" some where in the envelope with the invite lol

My comment isn't showing up! BOO! I was saying that I am missing 30 and my deadline was yesterday

Yes, people suck! I also had to track down/force some answers out of people (and I had stamps, too). So rude! In general, the yes's tend to come in fast and the no's tend to procrastinate (but you never know, someone could surprise you and show up).

I set my RSVP date for a little earlier than normal (cut off April 15) bc the brochure said there was a 100 person minimum & if we didn't get 100 yes's I could hurry up and send out more invites (turns out there was a minimum $ amount instead). We got 116 yes's out of 189 invited (most of my family is not coming bc they live in Alaska, western PA/OH, and wedding is in eastern NY), but PEOPLE ARE STILL CHANGING THEIR ANSWERS even now! aghhhh

With the holiday weekend, I would wait until Friday to start bugging people. I'm sure most people dropped the rsvp in the mail on the 1st. Wait til this weekend to see how many you get back.

And I'm with Patricia .... I had people changing their minds up until 3 days before the wedding.

YAY (Date twin)! I'm not alone! I have 48 that have not responded. 82 who have, and 32 declined.... I'm going to make some calls today. I don't want to but I will. =)

Our cut off date isn't until June 24 so I am not sure yet. However, we have debated this. On our RSVP, we put THREE ways to RSVP which is by phone, mail, or Internet. We have a week grace period after the cut off just in case we get last minute mail offs, but that is it. We may call a few people, but after having issues with people not RSVPing to the wedding shower and giving them reminders, we are just not putting them on the list. Period.

Some people think that the RSVP date is the "post-mark date" - meaning as long as its in the mail by that time, no biggie. They do not realize that an anxious bride is looking to start laying out seating charts and seeing if they need to invite the "b" list... so I wouldn't sweat it too much that the responses were due yesterday. I'd give til monday 6/6/11 - if still missing responses start the phone calls! Good luck - I will tell you this was the "suckiest" part of the whole wedding experience for me... but after all said and done - it didnt much matter bc your day will be YOUR day no matter what!!! Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness!!!

@ Chris & Jennifer W. - I SO wish I could *Love* your comment. I agree 100%!

I'm nervous about this happening and wondered where everyone got all the guests' phone numbers. A huge number of people are FH's parents' friends. Can I make fmil call " her" people?

@Firstlady, I added that as one of the FAQ on my website, if you don't RSVP don't bother coming NO EXCEPTIONS, so right now most of our guests are aware what the deal will be when it comes to RSVP.

@Mary P. I got all my guests numbers from FH and myself because they're all family, you should ask your FH or FMIL for their numbers, I it'll be best if you call them yourself.

@ Mary, I was thinking the same thing, I would love to send out an email to the rest of the people who haven't responded to ours yet, but I have no idea the majority of their emails. I am planning on having other family members (My mother, FMIL and FH) make calls as well as myself once our deadline approaches. (June 4th)...

Hey there! I am having the EXACT same problem! My wedding is later than yours for sure, but two months before I'm sending an e-mail and a month before I'm calling. That's what our wedding coordinator told us to do. You're a month out so I'd say DEFINITELY call!!! Have your MoH help, mine already has the entire list and is on standby as well as FMIL and my own mother

Wow ladies, well here's the deal for me... As much as I love everyone we invited, once the deadline is here that's it. I will only call immediate family to confirm their receipt... Everyone else is just out of luck. My brother had 10 people RSVP "yes" and then they didn't show up at all... No call, no excuse, nothing. That was $750 wasted on inconsiderate people ( and it was confirmed later that none of them were in major crisis, got injured or died... One couple just plain forgot and went to dinner with some friends!!!!!)

So, when the date arrives, if the RSVP's aren't in my hand, I extended enough love and courtesy to invite them to our special day 6 weeks ahead of time, then they are just out of luck. Sorry.

I plan to wait a few days after the RSVP date (assuming some people think they can mail the card by the RSVP date) and then I'll be calling!

My RSVP date was 6/5 - by monday there were still 35 out (out of about 100 invitations). However, almost all were my slacker friends!! So I sent a blast over facebook - as a group message - and everyone responded and put them in the mail (or just replyed in the message). Although I am slightly annoyed at the waste of fancy letterpress and lots of stamps, it was pretty easy to get those final responses!!

So, don't sweat it - they'll come in, just give it a week or so.

Also - i did have two people that never received their invite, so it is good to check in in some fashion.