Rsvp confusion

I think during this time, anything will go and people will be understanding. So I think phone numbers would be fine! Or maybe even a wedding only related email address? Easier to keep them all in one place.


Can you share what the restrictions are your venue is enforcing? I’m supposed to be getting married 10/24/20 in northern CA, and I haven’t heard anything from my venue just yet, but anxious to hear what they might say. The county we’re getting married in is one of the more “advanced” in re-opening but I’m just not sure.

View Quoted Comment Very true. I think people will understand on needing rsvps sooner and hopefully will understand the changes. We plan on sending out invites first- see who declines and then offer their spot to other guests and then eventually send out the letter to people who had to downsize. So I guess an email or text/call would be faster.
We are getting married 10.23.2020 in Wisconsin.
We have 155 guests but will be lowering it inviting 100. Im assuming around 80-90 will actually come. Our venue is asking guests to social distance but it is up to the guests to enforce it.We will no longer be accommodating children due to already having to lower our list.The venue also will not allow self serve buffet or self serve dessert stations. None are huge sacrifices for us, but we still have to go through out list and make the cuts

View Quoted Comment Best of luck! I think in the grand scheme of things RSVPs won’t be what anyone remembers 😊


Oh wow. That’s really interesting! We currently have a 100 person guest list and we’re already anticipating some wouldn’t show just because of how things go. Thank you so much for sharing! I’m sorry you have to cut your list, that can’t be easy.

View Quoted Comment Do you think i should do one or the other? I just hate to send everyone rsvp cards and stamps and then everyone just ends up texting/calling. I would hate to waste money on stamps lol

View Quoted Comment I say don’t do the mail in RSVPs. In that situation, I would personally use a wedding email that only gets wedding related stuff. Much easier to keep track of. Then you don’t have a bunch of loose ends or miscounting from someone sending in two RSVPs in different formats.

I’ve seen people do that rsvp method before to get RSVPs faster. Or there’s a lot of people who do “rsvp on our website” as an option too

Do you have a wedding website? If not, you could set one up pretty easily and send the info in your invites. That’s probably the most organised way to get RSVPs back quickly. I also don’t think it’s tacky to give your phone number so people can reach out if they have trouble RSVPing online and would rather just call/text.

I think phone numbers are fine! You can also do online RSVP or make an email just for the wedding, which may seem a little more formal than phone numbers if you're worried about it.

Can you do an online RSVP? That’s way more organized than having people text/call you, but faster than mailing

In normal, non-Covid times, all of daughter's RSVPs were on the wedding website (The Knot) and it was fast, easy, and well organized. You can even include any needed details about the venue rules, etc., right there there on the website. For daughter, everything was saved in one place, which I would think would be SO much better than a bunch of random calls, messages, texts to one of your two phones. (Her wedding even included two separate RSVPs for the wedding and the large rehearsal/welcome dinner, with menu selections for each, and it worked just about perfectly thru the website. There were a couple people they had to follow-up with at the end, but the number was very small.)

I did phone numbers only and the link the rsvp page on weddingwire.com. It's 2020 I'm not mailing anyone a stamp. I think we all get caught up in what's "tacky". It's not "tacky" its practical and modern.