rsvp cards

I wouldn’t fill in names, for a few reasons. I think its a lot of extra effort on your end for very little payoff. MOST people don’t try to bring extra guests, and the few that do aren’t gonna be stopped by a name on a line. Those determined few, if you have any in your crowd, might just add names, or cross off one and add another, and either way you’d need to follow up to address it. I also think it’s important to let guests fill in the names in the event, say, only one person in a couple can make it— then they’ll only write the name of the one who’s actually attending instead of having both names listed and a “1 accepts, 1 declines” scenario.

View Quoted Comment Didn't even think of that! Thanks so much !

The problem with writing them in is that if only 1 person comes, how will they be able to say who that person is? For instance if both mine and my husband's names are on the card and only I can come, if I check "accepts" you will think we are both coming. If I check "declines" , it looks like neither of us will be able to attend. I think they need to be able to write it in themselves, just in case. Hope that makes sense

View Quoted Comment Totally does ! Didn't even think about that but you make an awesome point. Looks like I'll just write their names on the envelope like I planned

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I agree with this completely

As far as etiquette goes, strictly speaking, only the guests whose names are on the envelope are considered invited (and "and guest" is considered a plus one), so you shouldn't have to have the seats reserved option. I agree, don't bother to write the names on the RSVP card - let the guests do that. Sure, some will probably try to bring extra guests, but most people won't. It's not likely to be a big enough problem to worry about.