rsvp Cards

It’s really up to you. I’ve seen both ways. For the older folks, do they have someone younger that can help them? Alternatively, if there are only a handful of elderly people on your guest list (like grandparents), you can just call and double check that they would be able to follow the instructions on the invitation to RSVP online.

View Quoted Comment You’re right - I’m probably overthinking it! The more I think about it the more I think I’ll just go the digital route, i just tested it out on our website and it’s super simple so they should be able to figure it out

I think it wouldn’t hurt to order just a few of them. That’s what we did for ours. Anyone who was elderly and we knew to not be that tech-savvy, we included a card in addition to everything else in the invitation suite. I think we ordered 10 to be on the safe side. The details card still described the digital RSVP on the website so that we didn’t have to pay extra for 2 detail card designs - so essentially the elderly had a choice. If they read that and thought “geez I can never figure out those websites!” there was an old-fashioned card waiting in the pocket too.

View Quoted Comment I think that’s a good compromise- I loved the design of our rsvp cards so I’ll be happy to use at least a few!

I'm not doing the cards to save money. Our non tech savvy family members will just call us.


Are the non tech savvy ones relatives? It's easy enough for them to just call you or you call them, saves postage and then you can just rsvp them on the site.

I did one with a qr code and postcard. One side had a part you could write on and was setup like a classic rsvp postcard. The stamp area had our qr code. The on the front side I had a huge qr code and read "please scan the code to RSVP on our wedding website if you do not wish to mail this card." I have an example from Zazzle attached here. I used printsoflove.com because they have excellent quality and the cardstock paper was thick. Also they didn't charge extra for printing on both sides.

It solved the problem of needing separate rsvp cards. Instead it was one card with both options.

We did both. Most people sent back their cards, and I think the majority of the online RSVPs were when we had to follow up with people and we'd include the link to the RSVP page so they could put in their response right then.

I had the same thought when figuring out stationary! We just ordered the smallest amount of response cards possible to include for the older family members who can't/don't like using a computer very much! Saved us a TON on stamps/extra stationary and it's easier and quicker for the majority of our people to hop on the wedding website and RSVP as soon as they receive their invitation

View Quoted Comment That’s what I think we’re going to do! In reality there’s only a small handful of older relatives I’m worried about, so I’ll just give them a card and call it a day lol

Bear in mind that even though wedding websites are popular in some groups, not all people have jumped on that train so they may be foreign or confusing to many, even if you have a younger crowd under 60+. The same applies to QR codes that many do not use despite being tech savvy. They are very recent trends. Digital rsvps are confusing to some and annoying to others. Some people who know loads about technology do not find digital invites and rsvps to be convenient and they prefer paper invites and rsvp cards. If someone is given a paper rsvp card and chooses to not use it in favor of digital, they can always put the card in the recycling bin with the rest of their paper products. Based on posts, the same stress exists no matter what method is used because some people forget to fill it out and return it to you and others don’t care because they were not taught etiquette and they don’t think it applies to the modern generation and you are supposed to psychically know if they are attending or not. On the same token, we have received digital invitations that included digital reply cards, and the couples were younger so assume that everyone everywhere uses technology and if someone doesn’t then they are wrong. Because no paper of any kind was mailed out, guests didn’t take any of it seriously so next to no one showed up, at least 3 unrelated weddings. Because they said later to the couples which came in conversations afterwards that they were waiting on paper invites and took them as seriously as a birthday party or weekend bbq.


The best thing is to give an option of paper (again they can recycle what isn’t mailed), digital or phone call and let them decide what is most convenient for them. But rsvp cards are mandatory if you have any kind of headcount by a caterer. Modern society doesn’t change that fact.

View Quoted Comment Yup - I’m sending a few paper ones to older relatives. Every family wedding for the last few years has utilized a wedding website and everyone managed.

View Quoted Comment Also I didn’t think I implied that if someone doesn’t use technology they were wrong, lol