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rsvp card wording for kids meal

Jessica, on December 28, 2018 at 3:09 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

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Our wedding reception will be a buffet style meal for adults with a separate meal for kids under 10 years old. We have discussed this with the caterer and decided that we'll have a parent/adult go to the counter (that is separate from the buffet line) and let them know how many meals they need, then that person will take the meal back to the kids. This insures that we don't have a bunch of kids going through the buffet line and getting food that will just sit on their plates, only to be thrown out and hopefully make it a bit easier for everyone going through the buffet line.
Our dilemma is how to word this on the RSVP card to let the parents know? I don't want to pay the adult price for the buffet for all the kids (we have 53 between the ages of 2 and 10), but I need to make it clear that the adult buffet is not an option for the younger ones. I realized that some 8-10 year olds might prefer the buffet, and I'm willing to work with them on that, but I need help with the wording!

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Latest activity by Ebony, on December 29, 2018 at 10:39 PM

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Victoria · on December 28, 2018 at 6:53 AM
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On our RSVPs we gave a selection of buffet or kid's meal much like you would see for a plated meal of chicken or beef. Our guests figured it out and chose accordingly.
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Chandra · on December 28, 2018 at 6:57 AM
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I would agree that you could just put down the food options like a plated dinner RSVP would have.
My venue has 2 price points for kids so we did this for our RSVPs. You could do something like that briefly and add a more detailed description on your wedding site if you have one.
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Gabby · on December 28, 2018 at 7:08 AM
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This is a good idea! This way people can't get the adult meal for their 2 year old.
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Future Mrs. Robinson1120 · on December 28, 2018 at 7:55 AM
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I like this idea
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Mim · on December 28, 2018 at 8:59 AM
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Just realize that some kids will push around a kids meal and not eat it because they would prefer the buffet. My kids were disappointed a number of times, when they were served chicken fingers and fries, while everyone else at the table had real food.
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Jenna · on December 28, 2018 at 11:37 AM
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How will those adults know to go up to the separate counter for the kids' meals? Will the DJ communicate that BEFORE dinner is served? If it's not made very clear many adults will just make their kids a plate from the buffet.
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Jessica · on December 28, 2018 at 11:59 AM
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We will have the DJ announce how it will be done, but I would like to have it on the RSVP card as well. This way the parents will know ahead of time. I'm just not sure how to go about wording it.
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Jenna · on December 28, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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Are you having a website?

I would just include a line on the RSVP care like:

Number of children 10 and under

Or if you need them to make specific selections add them as if its a plated meal.

And then just list the details on your website. I think that will get too wordy on the RSVP card and would an unnecessary insert since most people won't remember that 6 weeks later at the wedding.
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karen · on December 28, 2018 at 1:00 PM
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This is one reason not to have kids. Some parents will insist that their kids just have to have adult food. Parents not willing to tell kids they get kids food.
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Jessica · on December 28, 2018 at 1:27 PM
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Karen, I completely agree with you about the not having kids attend and it was a thought, but there will be the ring bearer, 2 flower girls and 2 kid relatives from out of state that will be there and I know there would be hurt feelings from the parents of the other 40+ kids that would be there. We really are close friends with all these families so rather than having the hurt feelings we decided to go this route.
Maybe we could add a note to either deal with the kid's meal or leave the kids at home??? 🤔 JUST KIDDING! 😁
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Jessica · on December 28, 2018 at 1:28 PM
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No we aren't having a website.
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Jenna · on December 28, 2018 at 1:33 PM
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Okay. In that case I would just a super brief note like "childrens' plates will be separate from the adult buffet. Please choose from the following options" something like that... I guess I wouldn't worry so much about telling people the process in advance. They won't remember. Good communication from your DJ and/or coordinator will make all the difference the day of. If possible it may be easier if the children's meals are brought to the table right as the buffet opens instead of guests grabbing them.
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Denise · on December 28, 2018 at 3:36 PM
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These logistics seem cumbersome. So first I need to go one place and fetch my child’s meal, then I need to get in line to get my own meal?

Can your caterer just serve the kid’s meals?
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Jen · on December 28, 2018 at 3:58 PM
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Well having an adult buffet makes it a bit more difficult since there is nothing to keep a child from getting in that line. I would probably put something along the lines of "a children's plate will be provided for all children attending" and then have someone (not the parents) place a child's plate at every space a child is sitting at right as the buffet opens.
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karen · on December 28, 2018 at 4:07 PM
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I cannot believe the complaints that parents have. Oh my kid wants adult food. Oh, I shouldn't have to get in a separate line for kid. Honestly, this is a thread for why not to invite kids. Have one parent get food for himself/herself, then the other get for kid, then himself/herself. This is not that complicated.
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Ebony · on December 29, 2018 at 10:39 PM
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I love this idea...IF i decide to allow children this would definitely be the way to go for us
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