Skip to main content
ARE YOU A VENDOR?

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Jordan
Beginner February 2020

rsvp card Add-on

Jordan, on September 24, 2019 at 1:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
Saved
Reply
Hello everyone!

I have a unique, at least I think it is, question for you all.
I am starting to work on my invitations and want everyone opinion on adding a line in my RSVP card.

Little background,my fiance and I live in MA and are getting married in OH as that is where my family is located. With that, we have invited a lot of out of towners that may come. His mother is old fashioned in the sense that the rehearsal dinner is about the groom, separate discuss, and that out of towners should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. So my family is large and so if we invite immediate family and the bridal party we are at 35 people. We are unsure of who is actually going to fly in and on what day so we dont know how many additional people would need to be invited to the rehearsal dinner and we dont want it to become a mini reception.

So back to my thought, I want to add a line on the RSVP card that reads:
If you are traveling a great distance to celebrate with us please let us know what time and day you will be arriving.
February __, 2020 at __:__ _M

Or have 2 different RSVP cards and only include this line on the one of those we know would have to travel in.

My hope in doing this is to get an idea of who would actually be in and available to come to the rehearsal dinner without them knowing it's about headcount.

My other option is to get the list of reservations from the hotel but they doesn't tell me if they are coming in at 8pm that night or noon.

Just want to know what everyone's thoughts are.

8 Comments

Latest activity by Melle, on September 24, 2019 at 4:41 PM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Personally I wouldn’t come in super early for a wedding unless I was invited to the rehearsal dinner or welcome party. I would make my travel plans around that. So I would feel odd getting something asking that before being invited to something. I would just invite everyone you know that’s traveling or stick to immediate family because I think this might end up being a headache for you.
    • Reply
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I would probably just invite people to the rehearsal dinner. We included a separate insert card for the rehearsal dinner and people texted to RSVP (we hosted 70 people). Because I'm not sure what "a great distance" is and people may not know exactly when they get in or why you are asking unless they know they are invited to the RD.

    • Reply
  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We invited all out-of-town guests, with a separate card that went with the wedding invitations, to the Welcome/rehearsal dinner. All RSVPs were on the Knot wedding website; so there were two separate RSVPs for those guests who received invitations to both. We had OOT guests who came in early enough for the dinner and others whose arrangements brought them in after. (100 attended the wedding and we had about 40 at the dinner, which was on Thursday for a Saturday night reception -- that's how the venue handles rehearsals.)

    • Reply
  • Sabrina
    Devoted April 2020
    Sabrina ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Also, people may know they are coming, but haven't made arrangements by the time they send back the RSVP card.

    • Reply
  • ISaidHillYes
    Savvy October 2020
    ISaidHillYes ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    If you are willing to host every person traveling out of town at your rehearsal dinner, I think the separate invitation PP mentioned is a great idea! My FH and I are having a private rehearsal dinner for just immediate family and the wedding party and then hosting a cash bar welcome reception that we are inviting all guests to. I'm assuming most in-town guests won't show up, but we wanted to make the weekend "worth it" to our OOT guests.

    • Reply
  • Stephanie
    Dedicated November 2019
    Stephanie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I'd definitely do a separate invite for the rehearsal dinner! That way your OOT guests don't feel pressured or rushed to give an exact day and time as they may not know until the week of but can plan to make it in time for the rehearsal dinner
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We had a room block and used that to determine if any of our guests were traveling the day before (we have some guests who are very far & invited them, but we have some guests who are only 2 hours or so, so it could go either way if they were going to stay at the hotel or not). My FIL are paying for the RD, so I provided them the addresses of anyone who was staying at the hotel, our wedding party, immediate family & they sent out individual invites. It worked ok, except I had to hunt down more than 1/2 the wedding party to RSVP yes.

    • Reply
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I like the PPs ideas for a separate invite for rehearsal dinner. that's what i did.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

Show more

WeddingWire article topics