rsvp blow off

What did the message that you sent people say? Did it give a deadline to respond? When was your original RSVP deadline and when’s the absolute last day that you need replies for your venue/caterer?

Once you reach your deadline I'd reach out one last time. I would say something like "Hey! I haven't seen your RSVP yet. We do need an answer by X date otherwise we cannot save a seat for you." There might be better wording but when people don't follow simple instructions I get very irritated and harsh lol

View Quoted Comment All covered. The only thing I didn’t do was state that I needed it by Friday. I’m my head I’m sending messages to loved ones, I didn’t think to word it like a work email ya know? Having to track down rsvps I figured was a given, getting blown off I was not prepared for lol

View Quoted Comment So you think reach out again? I’m feeling like I’m back in my dating days of getting ghosted but people I thought liked me 😂😂

If you did not include an RSVP deadline in the message I would definitely follow up.

I would reach out again and say hey I haven't heard back if you are coming to our wedding please let me know by Friday if they put you on read I would put them as declined

I think if it did not include the deadline then maybe reach out just to see. It's honestly the best thing to besides contacting them with a bring a chair and a sandwich card. LOL

View Quoted Comment I did tel someone recently that if they decided to come they would need to bring a lunchable 😂

I would reach out 1 more time after your RSVP deadline has passed.

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HAHAHA!! And that's the way to handle it. If they can't be respectful of your timeline, and your deadlines. They can bring a chair and a sandwich and make their own "table". It's just really inconsiderate for you and your day if they don't care to respond whether it's a yes or a no.

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If you did not include a deadline in the first message, then yes. Some people genuinely forget when to RSVP by.

If I have contacted them multiple times and no answer I go with no.

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If this doesn’t capture the current emotion..
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Send a text that says "I'm so sorry you won't be able to make it to our wedding. Well miss you !" and see if that gets a response 😜

View Quoted Comment Ooooo that’s an idea 😂 I contemplated reaching out on social media and asking if they got a new phone number 😅🧐

View Quoted Comment GIRL!! it’s the way to handle it! like it’s so frustrating. they can make their own table with their own chairs and as you said- their lunchables.

You don’t contact anyone until the day of the due date. As soon as you tally the replies from the mail that day, you immediately start in with getting in touch with anyone who didn’t rsvp. If they don’t give you a definite answer the first time you call, mark them as a no. You divide the list with fiancé and take as many days (should not be more than 2) as you need to get down the list and give your final count to the caterer.

Wait, your RSVP date hasn't even passed yet? Why are you bugging people for their responses then?

You gave people a deadline to respond by. You need to wait until that deadline passes, especially since your RSVPs are online. Think of it this way: if your boss gave you a deadline for a project and asking you when you're submitting it a week before it was due, would you be annoyed? You gave them a date to respond by, and you need to allow people up until that date to respond. After that, you reach out to everyone who hasn't responded to follow up. People always wait until the last minute, especially with digital RSVPs that are instantaneous. Also, I found it much easier to call people rather than text when I followed up. The majority of people picked up right away and were able to give me an answer right then and there.

I've been ghosted by a few people too. I'll be sending a message to them soon basically saying that i haven't heard from them so I'm counting them as a decline.