rsvp annoyances

I would say it exactly like you said. That your venue needs a headcount and if you don't hear back by the end of the day you'll mark them as not attending. People can be so rude.

I dealt with the same thing and I did exactly what you suggested. I sent a text and told them I had to give a final count and if I didn't hear back from them by a certain time then I would put them down as not attending. It’s rude but people do it all the time. Good luck!

I would call them to ask them if they are planning to attend the wedding. We had like at least 20 people that didn't RSVP by the deadline and we called everyone a few days after the RSVP deadline. Texts are easier to ignore and not to respond to compared to phone calls.

I wouldn't contact them again. You have already sent an invitation, and a text without a response to either. My last text would be I'm sorry you can't make it. But me personally I wouldn't send another text. That would be it

I would send 1 final message and say if you dont hear from them by X date at X time.then you will mark them as a no. We have a friend who still hasn't responded with their address, so they havent even had an invite sent out yet!! I feel ya. At this point, that friend is about to get cut from the list entirely. Good luck!!

I agree with the others, send one last reminder with a hard deadline and explain that they'll be marked as not attending if you dont hear back. You shouldn't have to hunt people down just to get a yes or no.

We just went through this too! People wait until the last minute, they don’t respond... it’s awful! We texted people and got verbal confirmation from some. Others never even responded. Our date was 6/6. We were still waiting for one as of this past weekend. We never heard anything so we just said forget it! They’re not coming and moved on.

I think you have done your do-diligence BUT It may not hurt to follow up with a call. People are so quick to play the "I didn't get that" card that better to have all your bases covered! Plus a phone call only takes 2-3 minutes

I know your struggle! Our RSVP date was last Monday, we were waiting on 61 people. As of today, 1 week later, we were waiting on 20 people. I contacted them all and now are waiting on 15 people. UGH. The second text I sent said "Happy Monday! We still haven't heard from you about our wedding on July 20, and if you guys can attend or not. We have to submit final counts this week to our venue, bar & caterer so if we don't hear from you by tomorrow, I'll assume you guys are a no. Thanks!"

I had the same thing happen. I just said exactly what you said, the venue needs the count by "insert date" and that is the final line. Explain that if you do not hear back from them, you have to mark them as regretfully declining

Just be firm the way you wrote it, there's nothing wrong with that. It's causing you unnecessary stress. I would just send the text and if no response still, count them out. Their loss.

Give them one last call/text today and state that you are on a hard deadline now. If you don't hear back by X date, take it as a decline and move on.

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I agree with this. If you've already attempted to contact them in several ways and the deadline has passed--I mean they know the deadline passed. I'd just tell them you're sorry they can't make it to the wedding. If they try to back paddle after you give the venue your info, tell them you're sorry but the final guest list has been sent in and there is no money left over in the budget to accommodate non-RSVPers. They might try and say you're being horrible, but no, they're the ones being rude, not you, the bride in survival mode. Good luck!

In my opinion you have already reached out. If they didnt respond then they dont want to attend. I wouldn't keep texting them or even worrying about if they are coming. The deadline has passed and you are trying to keep to a schedule. Dont let these 3 family members keep you from staying on task. You have other guest to get ready for.

Of course if you feel the need to send another text, please do, but I really think they have made their decision.

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Michelle, yes hun we are on the same page. Why continue to contact people about an event that they obviously dont too much care about. If they cared they would have rsvped on time, and even responded to your text. Clearly they arent interested.