Rsvp and then cancel

Yes!!! It happened to me. Even people who RSVP'd and told me the morning of that they'd be there didn't show! Ugh it annoyed the heck out of me! But luckily we only paid for the people we served

Yes!! This has happened a few times in the last 2 days. Unfortunately, we cannot change our numbers at all and are still paying for those people. Ugh.

Ah, bummer! At least they told you ahead of time so you weren't out the money!! That's definitely more considerate than some other stories I've heard on here....

Yes it happened to us 2 weeks ago and now again the past few days. We have paid for them already though, so trying not to be too grumpy.

So glad they at least let you know ahead of time instead of no-showing! It's still a bummer, but at least you aren't out that $$

I have some rsvps I'm still waiting for but if people don't come we get our money back.. which I'm happy for..

I didn't do place cards, so I can't for sure how many flaked on us, but I'd estimate 5-10 people decide a sunny Labor Day Saturday was better spent at the beach than celebrating our marriage. Luckily, we were below our minimum requirement for guests, so it's not like we wasted any MORE money cause of them.

Just found out today that 2 can't make it and they RSVPd yes. My aunt and uncle RSVPd yes, but they are probably not coming, they know they have until 9/10 to let me know the final.

I just had a couple do that last night to me. I am also waiting on 3 of FH's family members to decide if they are actually coming. They think flights are too expensive. I understand they have to travel and we did not expect them to come but are more than happy they RSVPd yes, but now I won't know for sure until after Labor Day. I want to tell them, please just make a decision! Luckily I have till 9/14 to give absolute final numbers.

I had one couple that RSVP yes but they had forgotten that they booked a flight for that same wkend. Who forgets that?? Lol

Thankfully they told me before the final number was due.

I had five people cancel the weekend of our wedding. Everything was already paid for. I even had one RSVP show up to the ceremony, but then left. I appreciate the thought of her there to witness the ceremony, but come on. I paid $150 for you to eat. If she had told me ahead of time I would have invited more people.

I feel like this is largely due to the overall attitude people seem to have today about manners and etiquette and that people seem to see all commitments as flexible. It's like how facebook has the option to RSVP with "maybe". That's NOT an RSVP. I was raised that if you tell someone you will be somewhere, you show up and you show up on time. The only valid reasons for cancelling are if something genuinely comes up like an illness or a family emergency (even then I feel really bad doing so). Even more casual plans like just hanging out, in my book you don't cancel unless you have to. I truly hate when people bail just because they are "tired", or suddenly realized they have to get up early they next day (how do you not know this sooner?), etc. If you tell someone you will be there, you should be there. It's one thing if this happens once in a blue moon, but people these days seem to think it's ok to decide if they want to follow through at the time. It's rude.

I had to chase down over HALF of our guest because they didn't RSVP at all. Funny enough many of these were older folks so you'd think they would have been raised to RSVP. They just "didn't get around to it." GAH!!

I have a feeling this will happen to me and will happen after I've already had to turn in and pay for final numbers. I actually wouldn't mind much at all if they do it before I have to pay. I'd love to save some money. I suspect however that it will go down the other way.

I have until three days before my date to turn in final numbers. The only flakes I expect are true emergencies. If someone rsvp yes and doesn't come, I will hold a grudge for the money I lost on that person. Like a $200 grudge haha.

I had people who RSVP'd and did not show and to this day they have not contacted me. I also had people who weren't invited show up. I also had people who were invited and didn't RSVP. I haven't sat down just yet to see how many people were there and how many people I paid for just yet. But you are indeed lucky that they told you ahead of time.

For my first wedding, I had 4 family members cancel the morning of, so I already paid for them (500 bucks down the drain) and couldn't get a refund. Plus, they didn't even send me a gift since they didn't attend. Grrrr, so rude!

Yes it happens. Life gets in the way. It isn't poor etiquette or bad manners. My husband and I rsvp'd to a wedding and then last minute work wouldn't let him off... yeah it sucks.. but come on...