Roles for Friends Who Aren't Bridesmaids

Guest.

What are the roles of your bridesmaids?

Gym rat nailed it.

I have to agree that they should just be a guest if they aren't in the bridal party. I asked a similar question shortly after getting engaged and was told it's rude to ask people to "play a role" in the wedding if they aren't in the bridal party itself.. almost like a consolation prize. I realized they're right, it's better to just have them as guests.

A guest would do perfectly :-)

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The reason I had asked what the roles of the bridesmaids are, is because this post is confusing. Role as in standing by you at the ceremony? Or role as in, " you are in charge of this, and you are in charge of that" ??

If they aren't BP then they are guest. Don't B-list.

Please don't have a guest book attendant.

Just a guest. There's nothing else for them to do if they aren't a bridesmaid other than be a reader, since being a guest book attendant shouldn't be a thing.

Guest.

Besides readers, ushers and greeters are good ways to honor people who are special to you, if you need them. I wouldn't create a role for someone, though.

If you're worried they're going to be sad they aren't a bridesmaid you should've made them one before.

Don't have a bridal party! All feelings spared.

I have been dealing with a similar situation. I don't want my roommate to be a bridesmaid. (We've been friends for many years, but I know how she can be when she doesn't get her way and I'm not about to deal with that on my wedding day.) So, she's going to be my "proxy bride" for the ceremony rehearsal. This way I can stand back and look at everything and make any changes I want to make. This also gives her a role that's not quite as special as a bridesmaid, but has a little more importance than just handing out programs or something like that. It also prevents feelings from being hurt because she's still involved without being INVOLVED if you know what I mean. I'm from Mississippi, so it might just be Southern tradition to have a proxy bride for the rehearsal, but it's really helped my situation.

Hahahah...proxy bride. That's a joke post, right?

Proxy bride....huh. So she is such a good friend that she gets to stand there. Not during ceremony but during rehearsal. Wow. Aren't you a great friend.

Kellie...really??? Seriously? I've never heard of this nor do I think this is a good idea. If someone asked me to be a proxy bride I would be seriously offended.

Reader and escorts are the only other ones I can think of. Some of my family members offered to help set up the hall/dessert table day of...I think it was because they wanted to be involved. Not sure if that's what you're looking for...

I hope this 'proxy bride' is not a single friend, because I think if I was single and someone said 'why don't you pretend you're getting married for me' that would not go over well. I have never heard of a 'proxy bride' before.

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