Role our 10 year old daughter can play in the wedding?

Sounds like you have a junior bridesmaid.

I will have our 11 yr old boy, 9 yr old girl, and 5 yr old girl stand beside us. I am thinking of having the 1 & 2 yr old sit in chairs. We will also do a puzzle ceremony with all of them.

What if FH gave her a special piece of jewelry too, like a necklace or something, sometime before or even during the ceremony?

Thank you for your responses, I think a junior bridesmaid and a special piece of jewelry is really nice, thanks so much.

She can totally be a flower girl. Too young for junior bridesmaid, IMO. The ideal ages for appropriate roles based on my opinion:

Flower girl: 5-10 (or 12)

Ring bearer: Same

Junior bridesmaid/junior groomsman: 13 - 18

FH and I have been together 11 years. We have a 9 year old daughter and 4 year old son. Daughter is my junior maid of honor and son is Jr best man. They are apart of the wedding party. Son will escort daughter down aisle. Son will be also holding rings in tux jacket.

That sounds so cute! I was thinking of having her as my junior bridesmaid, next to my sister (MOH). I wasn't sure if people incorporated them more as in reading, etc. We just want her to feel special.

Future step daughter is a Jr bridesmaid but will stand on her dad's side.

We have Junior BM that range from 10-15. I was a JBM when I was 10 and it was fine, wore the same dress as the rest of the bridesmaids (as did my 12 y/o sister) and we were adorable.

Why not ask her how she'd feel most comfortable participating?

My daughter will be 12 when we get married and she will be a bridesmaid I wouldn't have anywhere else and she is super excited about it.

Kati, don't stress about this. If you only do the sand ceremony that will be plenty. You mentioned not wanting to put her in the spotlight. The sand ceremony is perfect for recognizing her yet not singling her out. She'll let you know what she's comfortable with. Best wishes!

My 10 yr old daughter is a jr bridesmaid and my 8 year old step daughter is the flower girl. We have 3 boys as well, a very blended family lol. We are doing a sand ceremony with everyone.

My 9 year old is our junior bridesmaid. She didn't want to be a flower girl. She's also in charge of carrying our rings down the aisle (we don't have ring bears).

Honestly, ask her. She's old enough to know what she wants! If she's more comfortable with one title over another, give it to her! She may surprise you!

My daughter will be 10 at my wedding and I am having her walk me down the isle. My dad passed away when I was younger and my mom never remarried. She is going to stand up next to me and during the ceremony and she will be a part of whatever is kid friendly leading up to the wedding.

This may be me, but I don't get the "junior" thing. Can she just be a bridesmaid? All she has to do is just show up with her dress. Junior sounds so condescending to me.

My FH is doing "vows" to my 3 children. They're 12,11 and 8. They're in the wedding as well. I think the sand ceremony is great. My middle son is EXTREMELY shy and hates attention lol ( we can't even sing Happy Birthday to him ) Do whatever she feels comfortable doing!

FH has a daughter who is 7 and son who is 14(a young 14). They will be our ring bearer and flower girl. They are both pretty shy and will not be standing up front. They will walk down together and go to their seats. When it's time for rings FH done will stand up and hand them to the officiant.

If you want more than walking down the aisle and sand ceremony then I think a gift would be nice or you could do a dance at the reception.