Ring upgrade etiquette

I think it would sort of be a slap in the face to your FS. You just got it, he spent what he could and now you want to get rid of it already? Ouch.
I’d wait a year or two and do an upgrade as part of your anniversary, birthday, or maybe Christmas.

I don’t see anything wrong with it, in fact I paid for half my ring because FH couldn’t afford it. I said yes with no ring, then we designed one together. I paid for the stone and he paid for the setting.
You could upgrade to a bigger stone and put the old one into a necklace.

View Quoted Comment I really wanted to get bigger stones put in the setting he bought me but a jeweler that I talked to said she isn’t sure if it would be worth manipulating the setting...

We shared the payments on an expensive ring. But if he’s okay with it you can always trade it in for a bigger ring and they can knock off 500 from the total if that helps

I didn’t think it’d be a total slap in the face because I picked the ring out so it’s not like I don’t like what he picked lol could be wrong

View Quoted Comment What kind of ring is it? Do you have a photo? I’d get a second opinion. Jewelers can work magic, for the right price that is. I don’t find anything wrong with upgrading the stones on your dime, it’s still the same ring. It’s not like you threw out the whole ring like “Oh this is trash”, no, you’re adding on to the existing ring that he gave you. At the end of the day you’re the one who’s going to wear it. I would try to put the biggest stone in a necklace though so you have it.

I agree with Laura that it's a little insensitive to your fiance. You haven't had the ring that long and you helped pick it out. I wouldn't say anything for awhile. Maybe an upgrade for a big anniversary, like the 5th? That's the first real one in my opinion and it feels like enough time for your fiance to feel not insecure about an upgrade.

View Quoted Comment I asked Zales where we got it and they said it would cost as much if not more than a whole new ring to put new diamonds in, but I might keep asking around

View Quoted Comment I was also thinking of asking to get a bridal set instead of just a wedding band, instead of an upgrade?

View Quoted Comment Find an independent jeweler, you would get a better price. Since it has those 3 stones it might be a difficult modification, if they upgraded the center stone then there wouldn’t be space for the side stones. I’m wondering if it would be possible if you had the center stone in a higher setting so it wouldn’t be squishing the other stone space.

View Quoted Comment That’s an option too. That way you can match with your FH. And it’ll benefit the both of you!

Have you considered getting a ring enhancer rather than switching out the ring entirely? Many of them will go around the engagement ring to make it look bigger/more ornate/whatever you're looking for, but the original ring would still be there.

I think it’s something worth bringing up to him! You will be wearing it forever so it’s a decision you should make together my fiancé opted for the ring he thought would look best, with my taste in mind

View Quoted Comment It stinks because we rushed and shouldn’t have when we picked it out because his sister was going to be in town the next day so we wanted to have a ring to show her, so we just got the first ring we found. And on top of that I don’t really love the ring so I thought paying for my own upgrade wouldn’t be awful but maybe it is.

How long have you been engaged? I don't think there is anything wrong with admitting it might not be your style. See if you can trade it in at the same jeweler and chip in whatever cost you want. You will be wearing this ring for the rest of your life (or marriage, whatevs) and personally I think it is better to get a ring you love now, especially if you are willing to chip in the cost. You will be taking engagement photos and wedding photos wearing this ring. Do you want to look back and be like, "oh I have an entirely different ring now" - if you got something different later?

If you really don’t like it then I would talk to him about it. You’re the one wearing it forever. If you just want a bigger rock then I suggest sitting with it for a few more weeks. Go try on bands and different enhancers. You’d be surprise how much band can add to the ring.

View Quoted Comment I tried to sit on it for a few weeks and it still really bothered me so I decided to talk to him about it, he was so mad about it and doesn’t understand why I would want to get rid of the ring that we showed our families and picked out together and just does not understand that I was rushed and didn’t have time to look around or pick out something I love and now I’m just really disgusted over the situation. I’m the one that has to wear it... really frustrating.

You could always get a bigger band for the wedding, and if you’re dead set on getting a new ring, if you don’t want to keep the initial one, you can go to the same store and get a trade in price that could go towards your new one. I don’t see the problem with it since he didn’t have one when he initially proposed!

View Quoted Comment You could always try an enhancer with that ring! I think it would look really good! ❤️