kjski86
Just Said Yes November 2018

Ring exchange at altar with no bridal party or ring bearer

kjski86, on July 12, 2018 at 12:28 PM Posted in Planning 0 25
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I'm having an issue figuring out what to do for the ring exchange during our wedding ceremony. We have a tiny, almost non-existent wedding party with just MOH, Jr. Bridesmaid, and Flower Girl. Since we aren't having a full wedding party, we decided to only have the two of us stand up at the altar during the ceremony; our moms, and rest of the "party" would just take their seats after walking up the aisle. We're having a simple/short outdoor non-religious ceremony, no sand pouring or any of that, otherwise we would probably put on a small table at the front.

Bridal bouquet would be handed to my MOH (who would already be seated in the front left), and she would give back to me before we walk back up the aisle, but I can't decide how I want to handle the rings. I'm probably over-thinking this (or so my FH tells me), but I can't decide what I want to do!!

1. I thought about having either my MOH or mom hold onto them and give to us when it's time to exchange, but would that look weird for one of them to stand up, hand to us, and sit back down?
2. We could also have the moms hold them and each give to us, but then would that be weird with two people standing up and down?
3. Thought about having the officiant (also a friend of mine) hold them and give to us, too.

My FH is no help because he doesn't have a preference and will do whatever makes me happy (damn him and his flexibility! lol). I'm sure I'm over-thinking it but curious as to what other brides have done or plan to do. I keep going in circles in my head and not getting anywhere, so any suggestions could help me make up my mind.

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Latest activity by Neffe, on July 16, 2018 at 12:32 PM
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2018
    Jessica ·
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    I would just give them to the officiant. Sounds easier and less hassle!
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  • OrangeCrush
    Super October 2017
    OrangeCrush ·
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    I vote for number three, I think most couples have the officiant hold them. We did even though he had a Best Man and I had two attendants. It worked just fine for us!

    We also had a short non religious ceremony with no unity candles, no sand no nothing, lol!

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    Mim ·
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    Just give them to the officiant. That is a very common way to handle them
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  • J'Neil
    Devoted September 2018
    J'Neil ·
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    I would go with option three as well.

    I’m also curious, what motivated the choice to have the few bridal party members sit down? Isn’t standing up with and in support of you kind of the point?
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  • JuneBride2018
    Devoted June 2018
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    Give to the Officiant
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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    I would also just have the officiant hold them.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    This! They are in the perfect position to hold them for you

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We had my DH’s bro hold them but the officiant works too.
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  • kjski86
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    kjski86 ·
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    Yeah, thought about that, but opted to have them sit since he doesn't have a best man or groomsmen. We originally weren't going to have any wedding party at all, but wanted to make sure my sister and his daughter were involved.

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  • bobbileighba
    Expert June 2018
    bobbileighba ·
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    We had no bridal party at all and gave them to our officiant before the ceremony and it went very smoothly.

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  • NVV2B
    VIP January 2019
    NVV2B ·
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    I would have the officiant hold them. Seems like the best option

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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    Our wedding will be very similar to yours and we plan to have the officiant hold them.

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  • Jaycie
    Expert March 2019
    Jaycie ·
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    I would say giving to the officiant would be the best solution!
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    It is common for the officiant to hold them even if you had a wedding party. Just give them to the officiant.

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  • Tia
    Savvy September 2018
    Tia ·
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    Give them to the officiant.

    Btw my favorite line “Damn him and his flexibility” 😂 That’s how I feel about my FH at times too lol
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  • Daria
    VIP January 2019
    Daria ·
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    Another vote for the officiant.

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
    kymarmck ·
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    I would do 3!

    I've also seen where brides tie the rings to their bouquet and then the MOH would handle taking them off the bouquet and handing them to you at the appropriate time!

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  • Shayna
    Super August 2018
    Shayna ·
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    Personally, I would have the officiant hold them. I think this would be easiest and probably be the most seamless.
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  • Cee Cee
    Devoted August 2018
    Cee Cee ·
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    I’m #TeamOfficiant, too, but just wanted to share that I discovered a tiny little pocket under the arm of my dress at my fitting a couple of weeks ago. It’s too small for a handkerchief or even a lipstick. When I pointed it out to my friend who had come with me, she said it was for the ring! I thought that was so clever! So, I guess if your dress has a similar feature and your FH has a pocket in his jacket you could just hold them yourselves. Smiley smile

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  • kjski86
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    kjski86 ·
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    Officiant for the win! I was definitely over thinking it.. the simplest solution is usually the best one. I'll have my first fitting in September and now I'll have to look and see if my dress has any hidden pockets!

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