Ring Envy

I love my ring and haven't ever thought about my engagement or wedding ring being bigger, I'm just happy that my husband picked it out. We have tons of friends who are engaged, some with rings smaller and some with rings way bigger. I've never really compared and thought "I wish I had that" but that's just me.

See I picked my ring and love it but I don’t even wear it anymore aha so an option is once you get a wedding band you could just stop wearing your engagement ring altogether

No way. It was very important to my DH that he pick out my ring himself. What he got was way more special than I could have designed or imagined! My stone is bigger than most people's that I know but that's not why I love it.

My FH and I went and picked out my ring together. He pointed to the one I ended up choosing and immediately fell in love. He was worried that I wouldn't like it because it was only half a carat but that didn't matter to me. He picked out something very beautiful, exactly my taste, and within our budget. I didn't want him to have to put it on a credit card that he would be paying on for forever. For me, it's more of the thoughtfulness of what he picked out and not the size.

Nope. I love mine. It's apart of me and I could never imagine having something else. I have friends that have smaller and some that have bigger and each are beautiful in their own ways. I love that there's a unique story behind each ring.

No, I like it and he picked it all out himself so that makes it more special. But he did say he will upgrade me in a few years - he wanted to go bigger but it wasn’t a responsible financial choice at his time of purchase. So maybe you guys can do that in time if bigger is your only qualm?

No I love mine. I showed my daughter what I wanted so when he asked her she sent it to him and I got exactly what I wanted.

Not really. My center diamond is smaller than I would have picked for myself, but I love it and think it looks beautiful on my hand. Bigger isn't necessarily better.

I love my ring. I unintentionally picked it out cause FH had someone go james bond on me and got information about my dream ring. He wanted to surprise me and make sure I would have loved it. I would have loved anything he had gotten me but I thought it was extra special that he went through the trouble to do that for me.

If you love the ring like you say you do, that's all that should matter. Big, small, flashy or plain. If you love it but still bothers you, then you should talk to him about it or maybe even keep what you have and then just upgrade later on. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Did you guys have a conversation about rings before the engagement? That typically avoids the thorny issue because it would have allowed you to tell him what you want. If you did talk, tell him you appreciate his effort in choosing the ring so much but it’s not exactly what’s you imagined when you described what you wanted. What’s the return or exchange or trade in policy at the jeweler he purchased from? If it’s reasonable, you might be able to design a new setting for the stone(s) or trade in the the shape/cut/weight of stone you prefer.


We avoided all this drama by me choosing my own center stone and designing the setting myself. He didn’t feel comfortable doing it himself since he wanted to be certain I’d be happy with it.

The only reason I'm not in love with my ring is because it's not "my" ring. It's one that we already had that works until we can afford to get one for me at the end of the year. For that one, he wants to surprise me, and I'm sure I'll love whatever he picks out. I also have tiny fingers, so a big stone will look ridiculous anyway xD

I love the ring my FH picked out. He’s teased and said he wanted to go bigger but he bought me a house in Europe instead of a bigger ring.


I personally thought I wanted a bigger ring, but my hands are small and the ring he picked out is absolutely perfect. A bigger ring would’ve looked dumb on my hand.
So I figure I got the perfect ring and our retirement home in Europe. Win win

It’s hard not to have some ring envy but it’s purpose is a symbol of your love and dedication to each other, not a contest to see who’s is bigger or better. I got my dream ring and fall more in love with it every day but if it were a couple carats smaller I wouldn’t be upset because he picked it out and gave it to me

Nope. I tried some Tiffany rings on alone in Chicago and decided bigger is not better on my hand. I have a single stone on a white gold band and it fits me, my finger, and my personality. My FH was incredibly nervous about getting me something I wouldn't like so he asked for my boundaries. I told him I wanted a solitaire, six prong, white gold band that wasn't too thick. And I said that I preferred quality over size. He worked with his uncle and got just that. Are their other rings out there bigger and sparklier than mine? Of course! But I'll never upgrade my ring or change it. It's the diamond and band he proposed to me with on a hike and that's all that matters.

I helped design mine, so it's absolutely my dream ring. My FH knew that size was important to me, and he came through If you're looking for a bit more bling, look at wedding bands that stand out a bit more. "Stacking" multiple rings is popular these days too, you could always get two eternity wedding bands to put on each side of engagement ring?!

How long have you been engaged?

My FH picked out a ring that is "very me" but probably different than the exact ring I might have picked for myself. We've been engaged for 6 months at this point, and I feel like I like my ring more and more as time goes on - the more I wear it the more it feels like its "my" ring.

One of my good friends was proposed to with a gemstone ring and a silicone ring and her FH said he wanted to pick out a "real engagement ring" with her but wanted her to have something to wear in the meantime (she's in nursing school, so he got her a practical ring and a pretty ring with the intent of getting her a fancy ring that they picked together). She's told me that it isn't the ring she would have chosen either but its grown on her so much that she doesn't think she'll get a different ring.

Also, if the size is something that bothers you, you can look into getting a ring enhancer as your wedding band, which will give the ring you have the appearance of being bigger and flashier without needing to change anything about the actual ring.

No ring envy for me. I love my rings!

I’m extremely envious, but that’s because I don’t have a ring at all, lol.

My design of my ring is definitely something I wouldn’t have chosen for myself. It’s very him, very modern looking. I would’ve gotten something more classic, timeless.


But, I love that he got me a canary diamond because I’ve always told him I never wanted a regular diamond. And albeit not my style, I love my ring because he designed it and it’s special because of the story behind it!