Ring bearer

I don't think you're wrong for making that choice. also a grandmother ring bearer sounds cute

Not at all! I think it’s very considerate and responsible of you!
I was at a wedding last year where the flower girl was so stressed and upset about having her picture taken and the bride was totally ok with but the mom of the flower girl forced her. Ugh,

No. You’re never wrong for selecting the people who you want (or don’t want) in your wedding.

Absolutely not. I think it's great that you're taking your nephew's stress issues into consideration. Also, the idea of your grandmother as ring bearer is so cute!

You are not wrong. Between my fiancé and myself we have nine nieces and nephews. We didn’t ask any of them to be in the bridal party.


I love the idea of your grandmother having the job.

P.S. I love the idea of having your grandmother be the flower “girl”. I have a photo saved on Pinterest (attached) because I wanted to use the same idea. Unfortunately neither of us have our grandmothers anymore. So I thought about having both of our mothers play that role instead.

View Quoted Comment Our daughter is our flower girl and that’s not a title that she’s willing to give up or share. But she is my last living grandparent and I wanted to use her in a special way and she’s crazy and down for anything. My best friend used both her and her fiancés grandmothers as their flower girls and it was precious! Ring security while flaunting her diamonds fit mine 😂

View Quoted Comment Haaaaa!!!! I need a nap! 😴 As soon as I saw the word “grandmother“ I was so excited because I want our mothers to be the flower girls. But you said ring bearer oops! 🤦🏽‍♀️ Either way… It’s still super cute.

View Quoted Comment That is so many nieces and nephews! I can totally understand y'all's choice. It’s not that I don’t want him to be involved at all which is how I think it is being perceived, I’m just not sure if anyone else can see I’m worried about his stress and emotional well-being as well as underlying issues between my brother and his ex. There’s a lot going on here

View Quoted Comment Thank you Hannah!

View Quoted Comment Oh no! Yes that’s exactly what I want to avoid. He does really good around family and people he knows well, but in other situations where he doesn’t know or recognize most of the crowd he can be overwhelmed and it can end badly. Poor flower girl the mom should’ve taken a page from the bride and let that little sit out.

View Quoted Comment Thank you melle!

View Quoted Comment 😂 I knew what you meant either way it’s been a long day!

View Quoted Comment My heart was with the little flower girl. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Someone should’ve gotten that baby a big piece of cake and something fun. I work with littles everyday and it hurts me when parents do that stuff to them

Honestly I have a 9 year old adopted brother who has severe delays in social situations. He was abandoned on our doorstep and suffers from fetal alcohol syndrome. I love him dearly but I knew it would be a lot for him to get down the aisle as our ring bearer so I made him in charge of the flower girl. He’s still the ring bearer but so far he seems to think his only job is walk the baby down the aisle so I’m hoping all will go well but he is a bit older than your kiddo. It’s 100% understandable and honestly really kind of you to realize that the kiddo would be unnecessarily stressed and try to save him from that.