Ring Bearer Age? And what if we can't find a flower girl?

8 isn't too old at all to be a Ring Bearer. They say 10 and under for Ring Bearers and Flower Girls. You can just have a ring bearer and just have petals already on the ground before you walk down the isle without having a flower girl. I was thinking of asking my cousin since his daughter is 14 months younger to be our Flower Girl if they come, if not we'll just have our son be the Ring Bearer.

Sorry I meant to say my cousin's daughter is 14 months younger than my hubbys and my son. We're also going to include my sister's twin sons who are almost 2 years younger than our son to be mini ushers and escort my mom down the isle.

My ring bearer is my best friends son and he will be almost 3. I have no friends kids or family kids that are under 10 to be a flower girl so we just decided to have the ring bearer only. I don't necessarily think you need to have both.

This topic has come up before... you don't HAVE TO have either one. I didn't at my first wedding and won't this time. Not that I object to little kids in weddings, but I didn't have appropriate kids for either position and don't really feel the need for them.

I wouldn't say that 8 years old is TOO old, but it might depend somewhat on the boy and whether he is willing. Some will jump at the chance to have an important role. Others at that age might hate being forced to dress up, stand in front of everyone, pose for pictures. I would definitely talk to him, tell him how important it is to you, and ask him if he's willing to do it. If he really objects to the idea, don't force it. He could make your day miserable if he really doesn't want to be there.

It's your wedding, and if you want your ring bearer to be TWENTY eight, that's your decision! lol

In other words, I definitely do not think 8 is too old.

As long as he's willing to do it, that's great. And if you can't find a flower girl, no big deal. Don't stress about things like that, none of it is all that important.

My flower girl is in the 10-12 range and if my ring bearer is able to make it, he is in that age range as well. To me it was more important to have them height and age wise in the same range.

Your ring bearer or flower girl can be any age truethfully. I think that we have been trained to think the little ones are the cutest - which they are. But if your ring bearer/flower girl is a little older, just do what I did and give them more important sounding titles: Jr Flower Maide and Jr Ringsman -its a mix of flower girl + jr bridesmaid or try useing Sr instead of Jr. All in all pick who you want. Once they have their glad-rags on they will look cute no mater what the age.

There is definitely no age limit on who can be a ring bearer. I own an event panning company but I'm currently planning my own wedding this year and I asked my 12 year old Godson to be my ring bearer. He will just be wearing a tux like the other groomsmen. If you do not have any young girls to be the flower girl I would not force it. It will look just fine without flower girls.

8 isn't too old. My flowergirl and ringbearer are going to be 11. They were the youngest we could get.

We are actually having TWO RING BEARERS at our November wedding. Like you, we do not know any girls for flower girls, so we are having a boy from each side (his nephew, my cousin) of our family be the ring bearers. They are ages 8 and 9. Each boy will be carrying a ring. We also think it'll be symbolic as his nephew is blonde/blue eyed and my cousin is of Vietnamese/Chinese decent so it's like the two families coming together as one!! I say the heck with tradition, do what you want for YOUR wedding.

My ring bearer will be nine and flower girl will be 2 and a half (my daughter of course) I was worried about this at first but figured he was the youngest I had and needed a ring bearer to help my little one hopefully get down the aisle however he wont be bearing a ring or a pillow I thought it was too little cutesy for him. And if you dont have a flower girl dont have one make your own rules!

I actually encountered a similar problem as well. My MOH has 2 little girls (1 &2 years old) but no one else in my family or my FH has little boys. SO we have decided to go with just two flower girls. I personally don't think 8 is too old for a ring bear! It would be very cute! and a flower girl...you dont need one! It happens and you just have to adjust to it. Hopefully this helps!

I already have my flower girl and ring bearer. I also have twin 3 year old nephews that I would love to have dressed up in little tuxes and somehow put in the wedding. Any ideas on what they could do?

I know this post is an older one but Jill, what did you end up doing with your twin 3 year old nephews? I have the same situation - the twins will be almost 3 and I'm worried that they won't be able to make it down the aisle. My FG will be 4 1/2 so she will be fine. I've thought about having the twins carry a "here comes the bride" sign or something, or having their mom walk them in. Help!?