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Response cards???

Amanda, on March 1, 2020 at 4:37 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

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Ok so I have only been to one wedding and that was the wedding of my best friend. I didn't get an invitation because being invited verbally was enough for me. That being said I have never had to fill out a R.S.V.P. card and I have a dilemma.

My fiance's family is Latin. They love each other and family is a big deal. I mean like a HUGE deal. Don't worry if you haven't seen someone for 5 years because if there is a party someone will bring them along even if they were invited or not!

What is the proper way to send out response cards? If I send out an invitation and for instance say "Mr and Mrs. Whatsyourname and Family" or "The Whatsyourname Family", would it be appropriate to then have the family members' names listed on the response cards so that it is clear that only that immediate family is invited and not their 3rd cousins as well? I would love everyone to be able to come and enjoy themselves but its not as simple as that. I just want to make it clear who is invited without being rude.

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Latest activity by Kendra, on March 2, 2020 at 10:42 AM

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Lucky1403 · on March 1, 2020 at 5:01 PM
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I would send the invitations addressed to those invited. Husband & wife and minor children. Adult children get there own invitation for themselves and a plus one if you offer.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on March 1, 2020 at 6:32 PM
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I would address the invitation to “The Doe Family,” then address the inner envelope to “John Doe, Jane Doe, Jimmy Doe, and Jenna Doe.” If you won’t have inner envelopes, list each person by name on the outer envelope.
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Rachael · on March 1, 2020 at 9:11 PM
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I agree with the inner envelope listing, usually it's easier to keep all RSVP cards standard but whatever is better for you !
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· on March 2, 2020 at 8:17 AM
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I've never seen an RSVP with the guests names on them, but if you can figure out how to do it, it would make it really easy for you to keep track of who's coming, and I don't think anyone would find it rude. Here's a draft of mine:

Instead of the usual M____ line, you could have each person(from that address)'s name.
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Kendra · on March 2, 2020 at 10:42 AM
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I literally just went through this. I have an Aunt who would bring the extra kids that live with her (that are in no way related to me by blood or marriage) because she feels they are her kids. SO, I wrote out every single name on the RSVP card of the people who were invited. They can cross out names of people who aren't coming and write the total on the line provided. I went a step further and put the # of people invited on the far right of the line as: (#). I did it for every RSVP so people wouldn't talk and have a different thing than someone else. Is it tacky? Maybe. But I don't want to get blank RSVP cards nor do I want additional people showing up.
We are over our preferred number of guests so I don't have space or desire for additional people to join. This was my solution!
Also, I felt like inner envelopes were a waste of money and paper. My invites alone were over the 1 oz stamp limit so don't forget about that! I had written out every single name on the STD's because I addressed those by hand. I bought the invitations from Minted and they had a limit to the number of characters you could put on a line. So most of the invitations were Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Family.
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