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Resigning before attending my manager’s wedding

Alex, on March 3, 2022 at 10:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I need some advice on whether I should still attend my manager’s wedding if I no longer work with her.

My manager is getting married in September this year (2022). I been offered a new job opportunity that means I would leave my current workplace in April 2022.
My manager invited me to her destination wedding in December 2021 and I RSVPd yes in January 2022. I am excited to attend and she is excited to have me. However, if I take the new job I’m not sure if I should still go to the wedding - it might be awkward. I have already booked accomodation for the wedding but it can be cancelled.
Please advise!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on March 4, 2022 at 4:22 PM

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Michelle · on March 3, 2022 at 11:05 PM
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She wants you to attend regardless of the work situation, otherwise she would never have extended the invitation. People don’t often stay in the same company but they socialize outside of work and stay in touch. Don’t overthink it since you said she is looking forward to you being there. Go and have fun.
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Candace · on March 4, 2022 at 8:51 AM
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You should definitely go if you want to. She would not have invited you if she didn't want you there. I think if you cancelled, you would be sending a strong message that you don't want to be in her life now that the work relationship is over. I don't think that would be smart for your professional career. It's a good thing to remain friends with people from jobs over the years.
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Kylie · on March 4, 2022 at 11:33 AM
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I would honestly wait and see how she takes your resignation. If she is chill and supportive, I’d go, but if things get hostile, I wouldn’t.
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Shannon · on March 4, 2022 at 2:51 PM
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I know it’s a destination, however her rsvps were due 8 months prior to the wedding? That’s extremely early. I can see many guests changing responses in that time frame. Keep that in mind in case resignation isn’t taken well.
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Michelle · on March 4, 2022 at 4:22 PM
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That is very strange and unorganized. Are you sure they weren’t save the dates? No one can commit to anything before 4 weeks and a manager would know that being in charge of scheduling. If invitations are sent before 6-8 weeks, regardless of location, guests will lose and forget the information and it comes across that they are trying to fill seats with B and C lists who don’t matter to them.
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