Savvy October 2019

Reserving a ceremony seat for deceased

Elizabeth, on January 30, 2019 at 4:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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My mom died 12 years ago. I want to reserve her a seat at the ceremony. What is a polite, tactful way to do that?



  • Marie
    Savvy September 2019
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    Hi Elizabeth,
    I am doing the same thing for close family who have passed. My plan is to frame an 8 by 10 photo of each of them and set it on a chair in the front row. I'm going to carry Rose's for each and my fiance and I are going to place one rose on each chair. One idea for you Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. J Robinson
    Super March 2019
    Mrs. J Robinson ·
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    I’m sooo here for this! ❤️
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I've seen people put small reserved signs on the seat, with something from the deceased loved one. Maybe a hat they wore, a broach, etc.

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  • C
    Super July 2019
    Crystal ·
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    This is what were doing for my future mother in law..

    Reserving a ceremony seat for deceased 1
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  • Meagan
    Expert May 2019
    Meagan ·
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    I was thinking about doing that too. But im not sure if looking over and seeing my moms picture will be too hard. I'm also concerened its going to be very hard in my dad. I'm not sure what to do. I want something to honor my mom but I don't want it to be sad. I have also lost all of my grandparents and my FH has lost all but 1 grand parent so Im not sure how or if to include them. I am lost with this issue.
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
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    Put the picture and maybe a candle on a small table in the back and off to the side. Do not make mourning absolutely central to a celebration. It's confusing and upsetting and there's a good chance you will lose it during the ceremony, already a powerful emotional experience.

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