Rescinding an Invite

You can't.

If you are paying by plate that is unfortunate, but at least not as expensive as a plate at a wedding ( I'd hope!) Maybe she wants to go because the problem isn't with your FH and she does still wish you and him the best in your marriage.

I assume his dad wont be there as well.

I can only give you advice to what I would do, if i sent an invite I would keep it.

Maybe she feels differently to you and/ or your FH, as your FH has seen more women "come and go" in his dads life maybe the newly ex wife wasn't married multi times and doesn't feel that way

I had a similar situation happen a few months ago. My accountant, more like a godfather, is in the midst of a very nasty divorce. We were very diplomatic about it and told them both that we would not be comfortable with them being at the wedding with all the tension that would be present and could potentially detract from our day. It's our day and there will be NO negativity that day. I don't care who it is. any other day, any other place than at my wedding.

This is a Bridal shower, not the wedding

Unless this woman is known to be violent or something, she should still be welcomed at the shower. She's been invited, and if she RSVPed yes, she must have been interested enough to attend. I also wouldn't be shocked if she ends up a no-show. But she has been invited, and so she should be welcomed and made to feel a part of things at the shower.

And, wow, on the 6 wives. Sounds like a soap opera.

If she still wants to come and was invited then she should still be able to come.

Maybe she still wants to go. You can't do anything about it.

Lol! My dad is on his 4th, and I feel it's only a matter of time as well. I agree with GoodMOB though - no need to rescind her invite.

You don't She was invited and if she still feels comfortable coming, then she should still be allowed too

I second agree with this.

And like another PP said, maybe she feels differently about you two than you feel about her. She might be legitimately happy for you two and wants to be there. If she has done nothing to offend you, then I don't see a problem on her attending - hopefully FFIL won't have a seventh wife by the shower date, that could make things awkward.

I know it is awkward, but she probably still wants to come to be cordial. She probably thinks it would look rude if she just ended up not coming and probably is approaching it differently than you may be. I wouldn't reach out and tell her not to come, just let her come. However, if you feel that strongly maybe see if someone else can talk to her and ask her if she is still comfortable coming after everything?

I assume she would know not to come, unless you two are really close? I would just call her and let her know she doesn't have to feel obligated since a lot of your fiance's family will be there. Hopefully she gets the hint.

Oh jeez that's awkward. but unless this woman has been abusive towards you or your FH, please don't kick her while she's down and uninvite her. if she RSVP'd yes, then it sounds like she genuinely wants to celebrate your upcoming wedding, and cares about that more than any potential awkwardness. just let it go.