I am in a bit of a dilemma. First things first, we were supposed to get married next week (8/15/20), but with all the new guidelines that came out mid July in PA, we ended up having to postpone the wedding. Not a huge deal, and something we did not want to really have to do, but also felt it was for the best for everyone especially since we have some family traveling from FL and other states.
A little back story... After we decided to postpone and picked a new date (4/24/21), I let all my bridesmaids know first. We have a group text going and I sent it in that since it was the easiest way to let all of them know at once. I only heard back from 2 of them in the text and was surprised that I didn't hear anything from the others knowing they have been my best friends for the past 20 years. Fast forward a week and I get a text, not a phone call, from one of the bridesmaids who I didn't hear from, telling me that she felt it was best to drop out of the wedding since we decided to postpone and since she is also traveling and doesn't know what to expect. Her "excuse" was that since she moved to NC, we haven't been as close as we once were and I make no effort, well neither does she. A couple days go by and I receive a text from another bridesmaid, did I mention they were sisters. This text basically stated the same thing as the other one... We just aren't as close as we once were and again that I make no effort to reach out. Here's the kicker, every time we have people over I always let her know and say hey, come on over. I've also told her she doesn't need an invite to come over as long as we are home to pop on in anytime. The other thing that really gets me, besides the fact they don't make an effort either, is that throughout these past few months, or at least since March when all this COVID stuff came out, neither one of them have reached out to see how I have been doing or how I've been dealing with any of it.
Anyway, my dilemma is... how do to ask a couple other girls to "take their place" without them feeling like they are a second choice? I don't think they will by any means, but I want them to feel as included as the others were. Both girls were invited/attended both my bridal shower and bachelorette party, and one is doing hair and the other is doing makeup for the bridal party. I just don't know the best way to go about it.
I know this was a long drawn out post, but any tips would be appreciated if anyone was in a similar situation!