Renting Bridesmaids Dresses from Rent the Runway

Everything else I have covered. I feel like she is going to make an ultimatum and say that FSIL cannot be in the wedding. FH is so used to FMIL and her controlling ways that he is like immune to it and just goes with the flow. I just can't take her controlling nature, especially with my wedding.

I mean, RTR is great. I've used it a number of times for events and it was fantastic.

Kinda tough for a bridesmaids dress though. Everyone has different body types and not everyone looks great in the same style. When you rent dresses you can't even alter them to fit you better... so I kinda understand this one.

Maybe BHLDN or Macy's? I'm using Azazie but I don't know if there are sequined options. Sequined dresses are super expensive so you should probably check with each girl's budget for the dress.

I know RTR is cheaper to rent a sequined dress but it is to buy it elsewhere, but honestly, IMHO, you should put the BM's comfort above your sequins.

Maybe see if you could book an appointment at the Georgetown Rent the Runway store in D.C. to try on the dresses (I creeped and saw you wedding is in Philly)! That could help ease your FMIL's mind about renting if she's able to see the dress on her daughter. I love Rent the Runway and fully support your idea!

"doesn't feel like it s a good option for her daughter" wtf?? she's a bridesmaid and 19 years old...not the flower girl...

Tell your FMIL (bluntly, if need be) that her daughter is an adult and will make her own decision. If FSIL says she isn't able to spend that much money on a dress either 1. let her drop out or 2. change the dress (depending on which is more important to you I guess)

@Vicki, I love RTR because people post their pictures and you can see how dresses look on different body types. As of right now, my only BMs are going to be my sister and FSIL. My sister is okay with renting the dress, and so is FSIL. The problem is FMIL makes most of her decisions for her. It's crazy. I'll check Azazie's website.

@Addison, that is a great idea! I think I will do that. I was thinking of just renting a dress for FSIL to try on to calm FMIL's nerves, but this is even better.

@SOS0033, yeah if it gets to that point I will change the dress. It's not worth it, because I know she wants to be in the BP and FH really wants this. I just hate how she doesn't have a say. That's just the way FMIL is and has always been. She tried to control FH for quite a while, until we moved in together. Even now, she tries to butt her way into every decision FH makes.

Oh, I'm sorry OP I overlooked a detail. If your sister and FSIL are okay/happy with it, have FH tell FMIL to cut her crap. That's absurd.

My aunt was same way about my goddaughter (her daughter) who is in my wedding. Pitched a bitch fit about me letting the girls choose whatever long dress from Azazie in our color. She said she would be taking my GD to davids because ordering online "is not how she does things" and "isn't for her".

FFS, it's 2017. Her 13 year old can't wait to pick her own dress. My aunt never lets the phone out of her hand and is constantly over sharing on social media so it's not a technology gap. She just wants it her way. Whole buncha NOPE

A couple of things:

First of all, while RTR may be good for yourself, you can't expect your bridesmaids to want to rent their dress just because you want them to. If I'm paying for a bridesmaid dress, I'd probably want to keep it or sell it afterwards and may not be thrilled with a RTR option that costs as much as a regular dress would that I'd get to keep.

Secondly, the budget of your bridesmaids is up to them and in the case of your FSIL, it sounds like her mother will be paying for the dress. That means you have to coordinate around your FMIL's purse strings. What is her budget? Did you ask? It's your responsibility to ask, in private, what each person's budget is and then find a dress in that budget and if they don't want to rent, then it's up to you to find one they can buy. That's how it works, unless you pay for it.

I'm doing RTR for my girls and they all tried on their dresses. There's a location out where we live in Woodland Hills area. I think we are getting the same dresses! They are tight! They show your stomach too if you have a little something there. I would definitely have your girls try them on. I gave them 8 choices and most of them chose a different dress that they originally wanted because of how it fit!

Vicki, yes it is absurd. I never understood how people can completely throw an idea away because they're not used to doing it that way.

Elizabeth, I completely agree with checking with the budget. It's not the budget that FMIL is concerned about, it is the while concept of renting the dress. She has never done it, so she feels uncomfortable with doing it. I would never ask anyone what their budget is around anyone, as I know that is persona and private information. My sister is cool with renting the dress, but FMIL does not want to because it is unfamiliar territory. Also, the sequined dresses would cost at least double of what they would pay if they rented it, so that's why I took that route. If it were a different type of dress, they could have the option to buy it.

Jeanette, I have talked to FMIL and told her about the option to try the dress on in the store before renting it, and she likes that idea. I am letting them choose whatever dress style they want, I just want the color to be the same.

My only concern would be that you can't alter the dresses. If your girls won't need alterations, that's great, but it wouldn't have worked for my BM's.

FutureMrsRidley if she's against it, she's against it. You can't force them to rent. Not everyone is on-board with RTR and you need to be respectful of that unless you're paying for the rentals.

Elizabeth, unsure if you saw my comment that I made towards Jeanette, but she feels better knowing that FSIL cant try the dress on in the store, prior to renting it for the wedding. I spoke to her about this after Addison suggested it, so she has agreed to give it a try. Also, if she decides to be completely against it, then I will pay for her dress, in addition to the hair and make up I was already covering, because it is very important to FH that his sister be in the wedding. It's the fact that FMIL is very controlling and hard to deal with if things don't go her way. I refuse to change my entire plans around, because she does not agree with something. If it were a legit reason or due to her budget then I would change it. I refuse to keep changing shit, because she doesn't like it. It's not her wedding and FSIL is old enough to make decisions on her own, so if I need to I will cover that cost.

theD, I think it's a great alternative instead of buying dresses you'll never wear again. I hear so many stories about people being BMs and spending a bunch of money on dresses that just sit in their closet. I also love all the options they have.

My girls are wearing gold sequin dresses too and we are doing RTR. We actually went this past weekend to try them on. I always see in these threads that a bridesmaid's job is to show up and wear the dress so that's what they should do. I will tell you first hand than those sequin dresses are at least $300 a piece and the cheaper alternatives look just that...cheap. Trust me, RTR is the best way to go for sequin dresses.

FMB, yeah, hopefully if FMIL likes it then we'll just go with that. If not, FH and I will just have to deal with paying for it ourselves.

The blush racer back dress was everyone's favorite! They are all gorgeous!