Removing Someone Who Invited Themself To Wedding

How did you respond when this person invited themself? Have you discussed the wedding with them since then?

View Quoted Comment I was initially thrown off when they invited themself, and I wasn't sure how to answer. I'm trying to remember if I awkwardly said yes. I've been dodging questions and statements with them, but they keep bringing it up. In the most recent chat, they told me they might not be able to get time off work, but I'm worried that they will show up.

Don’t leave open ended statements such as space, budget or anything else that they can suggest solutions for. Be firm that the guest list is already decided and drop it after that. Have security to remove any problematic and uninvited guests who show up, which may be required by your venue.

I’d just say something like “I’m sorry if there’s been any misunderstanding and appreciate that you’d like to be there but we’ve decided to keep the guest list smaller and have only recently finalized it. I don’t think that this leaves any room for debate and “smaller” is relative. If she does try to argue or bargain be firm. “That won’t be possible but I look forward to catching up after the wedding.”

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I finally gathered the courage to tell them the truth of how I felt about the situation. They expressed disappointment and made some passive aggressive comments, but I don't care. I'm staying firm with my choice. I want to thank everyone for your advise, I feel tons better.

Omg. I’m facing the same issue! My mother & MIL both attend the same church and my FH and I have recently started attending too, but after we began wedding planning. I’m more reserved so I haven’t met many people yet. Someone from church found out about the wedding (we haven’t officially announced outside of family & friends with the save the dates) and after church she started chatting with me about how much she loves our destination & visits the country a few times a year. Then says my mom let her know I wanted to keep the guest list small but she’d still love to come & for me not to be surprised if she crashes the wedding! I’m very socially awkward so I can barely recount my part of the conversation, mostly awkward smiling and nodding but I know I took her email down 😩😩😩

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You definitely need to talk to your Mom about this, and let her know that you do not appreciate her telling potential wedding crashers details about your wedding. Then ask her to please head this off before people just start inviting themselves.

This sounds like a scene from a film. I never knew this many horror stories/situations occurred around weddings.