Hello! I have 6 bridesmaids and I have requested their measurements to place custom dress orders. I asked my girls on August 27 (Engaged: August 15, Wedding: November 27) to be my bridesmaids. They all accepted and I quickly put them all on a group chat.
On September 4th I informed them that I needed their measurements ASAP to place the orders.
Everyone except 1 has given me her measurements. She is a childhood friend that I’ve known since I was 8. I always envisioned having her as my bridesmaid, but she has caused me disappointment with red flags
1st: 09/03 I invited her to come dress shopping with me, since it was only going to be me and my mom. The location was 15 minutes away from her home and she confirmed that she’d be there at the time provided. She arrived 50 minutes after the appt and I even stalled because I wanted her to see me in the dress I was going to say yes to.
2nd: 09/04 The following day, she had previously confirmed that she could come to a DB appt to get sized with another one of my bridesmaid. She cancelled one me the day of the DB appt because of daughter/BD issues.
3rd: She made a comment stating that my fiancé and I should not spend too much on a wedding and instead use the money for a vacation and house down payment. She made this comment prior to finding out that my bridesmaids would have to pay for their own dress.
I am not asking much from my bridesmaids. Because they are paying for their own dresses, I am not expecting gifts from them. They have freedom when it comes to hairstyle, makeup and shoe type/color.
4th: She insisted that all bridesmaids would look nice with the same hair and makeup. Once again, I am not obligating my bridesmaids to have a certain style of hair/makeup. I don’t want any of them to feel obligated to spend money on something more on top of the dress.
5th: I made multiple reminders in the group chat reminding my girls to send me their measurements. I have 2 bridesmaids who are currently out of the country and they were able to provide me their measurements as soon as I asked for them.
6th: She messaged me on Wednesday the 14th that she’s been busy with work, Rheumatoid Arthritis infusions and hasn’t been able to get me the measurements but would do so by Friday the 16th. I stated that she is the only one who has yet to give me measurements and I need them ASAP to send off to the designer.
7th: She doesn’t work weekends and she lives next door to a Walmart. How hard is it to buy a measuring tape? I can’t go to her house as it is an hour long commute
I have tried to be as understanding, but due to the time constraints, I want to remove her from my bridal group. I too am dealing with my own health issues(Re-relapse of Stage IV cancer), planning a wedding and growing closer with my fiancé; which is why I have been sensitive to her health issues. But if I can plan a wedding despite all my circumstances, how hard is it to get me a measurement? I can’t help but feel ignored when I see her posting constantly on social media, but can’t take the time to send me some measurements.
What is the best way to tell her that I need to remove her from the bridal group?
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