Remembering Mom in my Wedding?

My FH lost his mom, so we understand how you feel. These are all great ideas!

My friend's had a small locket with a photo of her Dad in it, and worked with her hairdresser to pin the locket into her updo. It was really, really sweet, just as another idea.

So sorry for your loss. We are going to mention on the back of our programs that we would like to honor all of our grandparents who we have lost.

You are certainly not alone. I love @FutureMrsVanhorne comment. My sister and I lost our month two months before my sister married. As a nice way to honor her was we had the best man walk down with our mom's bouquet and placed it on the first seat. Now that I am engaged, I am planning the same thing as a suttle reminder that she will be there with us that day. I plan on having my bouquet with a locket that includes pictures of my mom and grandma together. Honestly, it is an overwhelming feeling and I am sorry that you too have to plan these details, but remember she will be there in spirit every step of the way.

I'm very sorry about your mother. I lost my father a few months before my fiancé proposed. I am going to borrow a locket from my grandmother (his mom) and put his picture in it. I'll tie it around my bouquet, along with his pin on nametag from his police uniform. I am not doing a father/daughter dance (it just feels too strange) and instead I'm asking that all of my guests join me in the chicken dance to honor my dad (he loved it). I will include a single burning candle for him next to my guestbook.

My mom passed away when I was 18. I wish every day she could be here to meet this amazing man I am about to marry.

FH has lost three cousins and his grandfather. At our reception there will be a table for them. Each person will have a picture with name and DOB-DOD. There will be a short statement about them as well.

My Mom passed away when I was 11, and have lost all of my Grandparents as well as FH has lost his Grandparents. I will be taking my Mom and both Grandma's rings down the aisle with me, (possibly sewn in dress by my heart). I am thinking about the extra seats and would love to display the wedding pictures but I don't think his side has them. I will talk to his mother about it. I just think it would look odd to have my side and not his being honored. I will say that at 27 years later this is almost as hard as when she passed. I know she is here in spirit, but wish she was here for real.

So sorry about the loss of your mom! Everyone's stories here are so heartfelt and touching.

My FH's father passed away a few months before he proposed. It makes the wedding planning process hard because everyday we wish he was here to see us walk down the aisle. We are doing a few things, some of which have already been mentioned here:

-I am incorporating a couple of lockets in my bouquet with my passed favorite grandmother and his father's picture.

-We are having a memorial candle and a moment of silence at the beginning of the ceremony. Neither FH and I are religious so we thought that would be the best option rather than doing a prayer.

-Putting his father's Sailor cap in a reserved seat.

I can relate - my mom died last year and my dad died when I was 16.

I'm not doing much - I'm wearing my mom's wedding ring (which I've done since she died) and I'm using one of my dad's blue handkerchiefs to wrap around my bouquet. I've considered also putting their wedding picture out, but that's as far as I can go. If I have empty seats for them, I will lose it. As it is, I'll barely make it down the aisle.

My mom passed away just a few years ago so I too am planning without her. We will be doing a few things to honor (his dad has passed as well). I will have charm on my bouquet with her picture on it, and im walking down the aisle to a song that she loved and requested be played at all our weddings (im the last to get married and the only one she wont be part of). I am also wearing some of her jewelry that she left to me. We are going to have memory candles for each parent not present burning that will be lit before the service, my dad and his mom will light the unity candles from those candles. In lieu of favors we are making a donation in her name to the dana farber cancer institute and this will be noted on the program card at the reception.. Our cake table will have 3 sets of pictures on it. One of his parents, one of my parents, and one of us. I dont want it to be a memorial to her or him, as it is our day but they will be there with us (we will know even if the guests dont!)

I lost my mom when I was 12 so I understand wanting to do something in her memory. I am going to have a small picture of her on my bouquet. I think it would be too hard for me to leave a seat empty or anything like that.

I won't have any parents or grandparents at my wedding, all have passed away. I've thought long and hard and I want to feel my mom there with me but not let it overshadow my day...I still get worked up about it and I know she wouldn't want that.

Along the lines of your jewelry, I'm having lilacs as a wedding flower. She loved them and had them outside her bedroom window so her room always smelled of them in the spring. I have a simple white gold and diamond cross I'm going to have attached to my bouquet. I feel like this is enough...a picture would send me crying and that's the last thing she would want that day. Since I don't have family members for a traditional unity ceremony we are doing a vine planting instead using soil from both our childhood homes.