Religion Help!

Have you talked with a priest and a minister (don’t know what they’re called in the Orthodox Church) to see what all of your options are? That might be the best way to start.

My grandfather was Orthodox when he married my grandmother in the Catholic Church. Following their wedding, he was no longer considered a member of the Orthodox Church. That was 64 years ago though and I don’t know anyone else who has done it since. I also think this depends on how strict of a church you attend.

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That's what we're afraid of happening, he's meeting with his priest in December and he's a little more modern so he's hoping things will be different but we know they're super strict about things like that.

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He's meeting with his priest in December when he visits his mom, but we're hoping for outsiders opinions as well. Lots of worry and things too discuss about church ceremonies that has us worried.

Can you do the Orthodox church instead? The Catholic church is not going to kick him out if you marry in an Orthodox church. So wouldn't that make more sense? What's made you decide to lean towards the Catholic Church?

View Quoted Comment I know that we had a catholic ceremony and my priest was very willing to work with us so that we could have the ceremony we wanted that still resulted in us being legally married and in the eyes of the church. My husband is not catholic, but is baptized.
Hopefully once you have discussions with them you can find an option that works best for you!
From my experience and what you’ve told us, it sounds like it might be easiest to have the ceremony in his church and have your priest approve it.

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The reason we are looking to do it outside of his church is because they will not allow the FOB to walk her down the aisle, they don't allow vows, or a unity candle and to me those are must haves during the ceremony. We originally were going to get married in his church until we discovered this and those are 3 key items that I do not want to part with, especially my dad walking me down the aisle.

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There are 3 things that have made us lean towards the Catholic Church, the major one being my dad is not allowed to walk me down the aisle in an Orthodox ceremony, its not what's done and most priests are not going too budge on that. The other two are the unity candle and the vows, the Orthodox Church doesn't allow those either and to me those are two of the most symbolic parts of the wedding that I want included. We looked and I was going to just go with the Orthodox Ceremony until we read a little more and found those details are not allowed, ultimately swaying me to Catholic and him in the middle because he wants me to have these things but he doesn't want to be kicked out of his church

Have you considered a non-denominational church wedding? I only ask because there’s more that goes into a Catholic wedding than just the ceremony. For Example: In the premarital counseling you typically have to agree to raise your future children in the Catholic Church and that may be a very big reason the Orthodox Church is against it.

Well we are getting married in a big, see through church-like building. I’m Catholic and my FH already had his first wedding through the Catholic Church so that isn’t an option. So, we found a Bishop who will perform the ceremony as Catholic as can be without being an actual Catholic ceremony. We are even taking communion using a traditional Catholic song and saying prayers etc.

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We've considered, we're still considering, however the big issue is no matter where we get married if its not in the Orthodox Church they're kicking him out.

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Our original plan was to find a minister or priest or someone that will do a mix of both ceremonies so we can have the best of both worlds, then we found out we aren't allowed to use that venue, because we aren't alumni of the college campus its on so now we're reworking the plan and we can't find anything that will suit both, and even if we go non denominational they kick him out.

View Quoted Comment I feel for you...that's unfortunate that they will kick him out. I remember when my mother married my stepfather when I was 7 and I know they had two ceremonies. One big one in a church and then a smaller one in a Catholic church. He is a Baptist so maybe that was the big ceremony. I'm only assuming because I was little. But I know 100% that the second was was in our Catholic church. Maybe do the wedding in his church then do a blessing in a Catholic one later.

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He's going back to his hometown in December so he is going to talk to his priest and see what we can do. Two ceremonies is a lot for me, so we're hoping his priest will help us a little since he's a little more modern than most. Fingers are crossed

View Quoted Comment I wish you the best of luck!!!