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Chloe
Dedicated March 2020

Relationship tension before wedding

Chloe, on February 7, 2020 at 12:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
Hi, everyone,
So, the big day is March 14, just a little over a month away. Over the last few weeks things have been difficult between my fiancé and I.
While we've been communicating any worries and how we are feeling, it's as if we are incapable of having filters, and suddenly it's like everything that comes out of our mouths is wrong. We normally aren't like this, and for me, it almost feels like I'm try to self-sabatoge. There's things I would normally just keep to myself that bother me, but aren't that big of a deal, but for some reason I will pick the worst possible time to bring it up. I was wondering if anyone else experienced anything similar before their wedding, maybe due to stress and the impending life-changing event. People keep asking me if I'm excited, I say, yes, but in all honesty, I couldn't feel further away from excited at the moment.

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Latest activity by Chloe, on March 21, 2020 at 2:45 PM
  • Gabrielle
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    Gabrielle ·
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    I felt a little similar before my wedding. My husband and I would get so irritated with each other and fight more often in the month leading up to the wedding. It was pretty rough haha. But then everything went away the moment I walked down the aisle Smiley smile it will most likely get better for you Smiley smile
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  • VIP November 2021
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    It’s normal.. I mean for us it is.. before anything major , a trip, our daughter, his career .. stress itself takes a toll on. It’s of us and we tend to bump heads and become very defensive over little things - we have been working on it — still haha being best friends for 9 years then dating and now have a 5 year old daughter and planning a wedding we learned to just take it day by day and work out our stress/anxieties in other ways - when we start to feel that ahhhhhh feeling we just take a breather - go for a walk , write it down etc


    I think it’s just the build up of the wedding causing it - don’t over think it !
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  • Kayla
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    Our wedding is on the same day! And we are totally in the same boat. My anxiety has spiked like you couldn't believe in the past couple of weeks, as well as having angry outbursts, especially towards my FH, which are exactly like what you are describing. I went to the doctor to rule out anything medical, both her and my therapist said it's most likely all from anxieties in the back of my head coming to the forefront the closer the wedding comes. So my doctor is upping the dosage for the next 1-2 months to stabilize me and then bring it back down to where it has been. So, you're not the only one! It's most likely anxiety and stress, and it's completely normal and understandable because it's a big life transition! Hang in there, you're going to love your wedding day!
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    Melle ·
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    It could be the added stress of wedding planning . Take a day of not doing anything wedding related and just reconnect
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  • Gen
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    Stress can make you fight more!


    Take a step back from wedding stuff maybe and just have a night out and enjoy each other’s company. Something I’d always do when I felt myself getting irritated at my husband (and still do now lol) is reread my vows. It really puts things into perspective for me and reminded me why I loved him and that all the petty irritants aren’t worth the fight
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    YES. The stress sucked. We got snappy and had a blow-out the week of our wedding. Take walks, apologize, ask for helps or hugs, just get through it.
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    Completely normal! Anything remotely wedding related sets us off when we don’t agree and it turns into a major fight. Not our proudest moments but tensions are high nonetheless
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  • Chloe
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    Chloe ·
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    Thank you all so much for your experiences and reassurance! We in fact, did get through that rough patch. We were both much more stressed than we even realized.
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  • Gabrielle
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    Glad to hear it!! And congratulations on your marriage!!
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  • Chloe
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    Thank you!❤
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