Relationship / Marriage Power Dynamics

Out of the 5 options:

Me: 2

Him: 2

Both of us pretty equally: 1

Based on the questions we're dead even. However, I'm really only assertive when it's something I really care about. He would be the same way if I wouldn't force him into leading the decision making :-P ... so, him, I guess.

What tactics do you and your partner use to assert yourselves in your relationship/marriage?

Are you more dominant because you feel like you have to be in your relationship or because that is naturally who you are?

What tactics do you use to assert yourselves in your relationship?

Got it, thanks for clarifying.

3 for me. The last two? IDK

Usually it's just talking about it saying something like, "I'd prefer to do XYZ" or "we need to get XYZ done" or "mind if we do XYZ this way." You get the point...

Perhaps you are the most dominant.

Yeah, got it. Thank you for sharing.

Maybe... Having to compromise a lot doesn't feel like it

I think he is more dominant in the relationship but I make all of the "minor" decision haha. For example, he makes more and helps to pay most of the bills, but I will typically be the one to choose where we go out to eat because he doesn't have a huge opinion on those things.

I would say I am.

In some ways.

I'm older, and also an only child, so there's a certain point at which I just, um, kind of expect to get my way? (...oops.)

I'm in charge of finances - partly because I've got more experience, partly because I currently make more money, partly because I lived in this apartment before he did so everything's in my name...

But I also ask for help more.

He's just as stubborn as I am, but he's also far more used to living with and helping family, so there's a certain point where I just lead.

What tactics do you and your partner use to assert yourselves?

Got it, thanks for sharing.