Reinvite or uninvite

As long as the legal ceremony is not cancelled, keep gifts and send prompt thank yous. Etiquette gurus (Emily Post, Miss Manners) have said since the beginning of the pandemic that it is rude to uninvite after save the dates have been sent because that is an automatic invite. Therefore if you have to postpone and cut the list, then you are supposed to send a cancellation notice to those who are cut and brand new invites for a new date to those who are not cut.

Someone giving you a gift requires a prompt gracious thank you but you are entitled to invite them if there is no space due to quarantine.

Agree- if you don’t have the space than you need to send a cancellation notice.

View Quoted Comment What if no one knows the new date yet I didn’t sent out save the dates for my new date

View Quoted Comment I would still send those who you originally invited a cancellation letter if you’re not inviting to your new date. If it was me I’d be expecting a new invitation.

View Quoted Comment Wouldn’t that be more rude to send them a message telling them they are no longer invited when they don’t even know the new date yet

Wait till you have a new date, then send a cancellation notice

View Quoted Comment I sent out a cancellation for the first two dates the third never even got a chance this is my fourth so do I still need to send a cancel notice when they already know it was postponed several times

I had to cancel my wedding in April because of covid. It was close to the date and had received a handful of gifts. As they came in I sent thank you notes can’t wait to celebrate. We canceled our wedding and called/texted everyone coming. We are planning on having a smaller wedding with only bridal party and parents plus siblings *hopefully* later this year. I am planning on sending “we got married” notices with a type of personal note...maybe. I would love to have had my big wedding that we were going to have but I do have the capacity to do it all over again! I wouldn’t tell anyone you are not going to invite them to your new wedding because that seems rude and unnecessary for you

View Quoted Comment Have you thought about live streaming your ceremony and sending people a virtual invite? I know we have had to cut down our list a lot bc of Covid and instead of a cancellation notice we are planning on sending them a virtual invite along with a phone call or something about having to downsize (not exactly sure the wording) and setting up like a front row seat viewing of our ceremony and some goodies for people to help celebrate with us virtually..

View Quoted Comment I think it would be worse to not let them know at all. I just googled & this caught my eye. https://www.brides.com/how-to-uninvite-wedding-guests-5084756