Rehearsal Dinner

Who planned it? Whomever hosts is paying unless someone else offered.

View Quoted Comment Well I guess that’s us, it’s a small wedding, only 10 in the wedding party, but since we’ve had to pay for the entire wedding, not sure we can pay for everyone to eat also, we went WAY over budget

You planned it, you're responsible for the cost.

View Quoted Comment Well actually, I was reading into that, since NOT a single family member has pitched in a single thing, we have paid for everything, I’m pretty sure they can pay for there meal, besides, I just won’t call it a rehearsal dinner, 🤣🤣🤣
Formally, the grooms parents pay for that

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No one is repsonsible for the cost of your wedding except you. The assumption that the groom's family will pay for the rehearsal dinner is outdated etiquette. If you expect people to attend your rehearsal, you should provide them with a meal. If you can't afford it, cancel the rehearsal and the dinner.

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Unfortunately, the cost of rehearsal dinner should of been factored into your budget. So that is on y'all. It wouldn't be right to ask your wedding party to rehearse, and not feed them afterwards. That doesn't mean you have to do anything expensive. It can be something as simple as pizza & beer at your house, or hamburgers & hotdogs, etc.

Traditionally (back in the day), brides parents pay for the wedding and grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. But it sounds like you planned and paid for everything relating to your wedding. So technically, you are responsible for the rehearsal dinner.

View Quoted Comment Ya, not happening

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You asked who is responsible and literally every single commenter has said the same thing. You can do whatever you want, but asking people to take time out of their day to rehearse for your wedding, then inviting them to a dinner and making them pay, is rude.

View Quoted Comment I’ll think on it

If you planned the rehearsal dinner then you'll have to pay for it. It's your decision on having a rehearsal dinner but if you don't have a rehearsal dinner then you probably shouldn't have a rehearsal because the dinner is a thank you to your wedding party. Definitely don't make people pay for their food. You can have a small gathering at a local bar for people who are of age and tell them you'll buy them a round of drinks. Just make sure you tell your wedding party that dinner won't be provided but you will be buying them drinks.

What sux here is that I don’t mind paying for my bridal party, which consist of my daughter and BFF, or FH groomsmen, his brother and BFF, I’m pissed off because literally his mom has done nothing to contribute or even offer, I have done everything and tried to include her, I’ve paid for everything, my parents are no longer alive, I guess I just figured she would try and be a little more involved and help out a little, even if it’s just paying for the dinner, or even showing up when I was dress shopping, we’re 13 days out and I guess I’m feeling the stress, plus it doesn’t help that we are 7k over budget.
Rant Over!!
we will pay for it.

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I'm happy you decided to pay for your rehearsal dinner. I hope your planning continues going well!

My husband and I had to pay for our own rehearsal dinner so we went super cheap with it, and rented a small space with tables and served pizza! If having the rehearsal dinner at a restaurant is going over budget then you could always have the bridal party at your house, or at a local park and do something cheap to eat!

Whoever is hosting. I assume if you don't know who is paying, no one has offered at this point. Anything you plan & host, you typically pay for.

View Quoted Comment Good idea thank you

If you are hosting it and booked it, you should pay for it. It doesn’t need to be fancy and can just be Pizza and drinks at your house if you want to. Traditionally the grooms parents pay, but that is seriously outdated. If you have decided to not go with the place you have booked, I would make sure you cancel it ASAP.