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Rehearsal Dinner

Lindsey, on February 4, 2020 at 4:45 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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I am having trouble with my rehearsal dinner list. I moved from CA to CO a couple years ago so 98% of my list is from out of town. My FH has a lot of very extended family, also from out of town, that has to be invited to the wedding. I have never met them or he hasn’t seen in 20 years. My question is, how do we go about our rehearsal dinner list and not be rude to our out of town guests? If we included all out of town guests it would be almost our whole wedding. I am fine with “meeting” family for the first time at our wedding but I am a little more sensitive about it for a more intimate setting like the rehearsal dinner

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Latest activity by Cristy, on February 5, 2020 at 2:25 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on February 4, 2020 at 4:51 PM
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Just don't invite any out of town guests.
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Dedicated October 2020
Joanna · on February 4, 2020 at 5:07 PM
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Everyone on my side are out of town, so I feel you! We have decided to have the rehearsal dinner be bridal party and immediate family only. I have decided to do a few things extra like host a brunch the day after for my out of town family, I will probably send out a mass text for my out of town friends that I'll be at this bar for this amount of time on this day so come say hi, and I will try to plan another lunch as well.
Don't give yourself added stress for the rehearsal dinner, but definitely try to host or plan something additional for the rest of your out of town people. Just stick to the basics with your rehearsal dinner.
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Melle · on February 4, 2020 at 5:20 PM
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Considering most of your wedding is out of town I would do as PpS said and only have immediate family and wedding party
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kymarmck · on February 4, 2020 at 5:59 PM
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The only people we are inviting to the rehearsal and dinner are the individuals involved in the wedding itself!
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Cristy · on February 5, 2020 at 2:25 PM
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The only people we are inviting to the RD are the people involved in the wedding, plus FHs parents. I just don't get this new trend of inviting all out of town guests to the RD. Why? Because you want to pay for two wedding-sized meals? Makes no sense. If I was traveling out of town for a wedding, and arrived the night before, I would not expect to be invited to the RD, nor have the B&G pay for anything else during my stay. They invited me to the wedding, and that's what I expect them to host.
Your out of town guests do not expect to be included in the RD. You're not being rude by not inviting them.
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