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Savvy November 2020

Rehearsal dinner

Rachel, on May 22, 2020 at 1:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
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We have family that is traveling a fair distance not in my bridal party am i supposed to invite them to the rehearsal dinner or is it ok to not invite them? We are trying to save money where we can so it would be nice to save on not inviting them (as bad as that sounds). I just don't know what is right?

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Latest activity by Samantha, on May 23, 2020 at 6:35 PM
  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
    Mindy ·
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    All of our guests are from out of town. We live in coastal Virginia and our families are coming in from Pennsylvania and Connecticut.
    We are limiting the rehearsal to the wedding party and their guest and immediate family. And even by limiting to that we have almost 30 people because my FH has his mom, dad, stepdad, and 5 siblings plus 2 guests.

    I don’t think it’s rude to leave the aunts and uncles and cousins out because they’re going to see you at the actual wedding and reception.
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  • Rachel
    Savvy November 2020
    Rachel ·
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    That is amazing news! lol I just am glad it wont be rude!

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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    You only need to invite the people directly involved with the rehearsal.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You’re not required to invite out of town guests to the rehearsal.
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  • Megan
    Savvy October 2021
    Megan ·
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    I don’t think it’s rude at all. Most of our guest are out of town as well. We are only inviting officiant/bridal party, their SO, and immediate family. We might grab drinks afterwards and thinking of letting guest know if they’d like to meet up.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    You only need to invite the people who attended the rehearsal to the rehearsal dinner.


    Personally, we also invited our out of town family because we never get to see them and wanted to spend time with them, and it was also the first time our families would meet. We live in New Jersey as does my immediate family, but my husband’s family lives in California so they had never met before. Also my cousins and uncles live scattered across the country, and my husband’s uncle lives in Europe. So it was really nice to get our families together the night before the wedding and to get to spend extra time with them.

    BUT we totally didn’t *have to* do that or anything, it was just what we wanted!
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    We're thinking of doing our rehearsal dinner with a limited guest list, and then a casual meet up afterwards for others to come visit if they want to, including out-of-town guests.

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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    There is no supposed to. The rehearsal dinner is primarily for those in the wedding. Many add immediate family, parents and siblings. Far fewer add out of town guests, so do it only if you want to. Often, when there are family in the area, they do something with out of town family, a little reunion and visiting time. Otherwise, they amuse themselves. When traveling far, it can be nice to settle in early the night before, so they can take care of themselves.
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  • Catherine
    May 2021
    Catherine ·
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    I traveled to another state for my nephews wedding but was not invited to the rehearsal dinner and never thought I would be. It's really for the wedding party. No worries.

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  • Daniela
    Dedicated August 2020
    Daniela ·
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    Not a problem at all as traditionally you wouldn’t be expected to invite them Smiley smile Also look at it this way - now they have their evening freed up to have some fun and explore the area Smiley smile

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated December 2021
    Brittany ·
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    I think this is totally dependent on you, what you want, and what you can afford. I will be inviting just the bridal party, our parents, and anyone participating in the ceremony. I have been to rehearsal dinners that invited out of town guests and other people but I don't think it's necessary and honestly sounds exhausting to be hosting all those people the night before your wedding.

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  • Rachel
    Savvy November 2020
    Rachel ·
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    You are so right ! It would be exhausting! Lol
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  • Hayley
    Beginner May 2020
    Hayley ·
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    I’m inviting bridal party and people involved in the rehearsal. However, my fiancé does have some groomsmen from out of town who also has family coming that are invited to the wedding. We plan to invite them as well. But, I’m definitely not inviting all out of town guests
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    It’s totally up to you! Some people invite out of town guests, but it’s not rude to keep it more intimate.
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