Rehearsal dinner -- who pays?

It's kind of old fashioned to expect the grooms family to pay for the rehearsal dinner. That's the way we are doing it though because his parents decided they wanted to contribute by taking care of it. Etiquette states that since I have a lot of out of town guests coming for the wedding, any guests there the night of the rehearsal should be invited. We discussed this, and my parents have let my future in laws know that they will take care of our family members.

Unless someone else offers than you pay

It's a 40 years ago thing. Nowadays the B&G pay for all aspects of the wedding including the Rehearsal Dinner, unless someone offers to pay for it.

I would plan to pay for it yourself and if someone offers then that's a bonus

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The old traditions of 'who pays for what' don't really apply anymore. When planning, always assume that you as the couple are footing the bill unless someone else offers!

If they offer to pay then graciously accept. If not, then you and your FH will need to pay for it.

We are paying for ours. FH parents didn't offer and my family is paying fir the wedding.

My future father-in-law offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, otherwise I suppose we would have.

My FH parents are paying for ours we were not expecting it but his stepmother said it was tradition.

Definitely plan to pay for it yourself unless someone offers.

I agree it's a tradition that's antiquated but a lot of people still use the old school financial "rules". We never expected FHs parents to pay for it but my FMIL randomly brought it up one night and said that they would be happy to pay for it.

As everyone has said it's a tradition thing some still do. In our case FH's parents are paying for it. But unless someone offers plan accordingly within your budget.

My mom and my in-laws discussed finances over Christmas last year. DH nor I had any part in the discussion. My mom told the in-laws that she wanted to do things traditionally. They had no issues with it. When my cousin got married, his wife's family sat down with my aunt and uncle and said they wanted to do things traditionally (which is where my mom got the idea). The groom's family paying is definitely traditional but not a requirement. My in-laws even took us out, plus my cousin and her husband the night before the wedding since MIL was actually kind of sad she didn't get to plan a full-blown rehearsal dinner.

No one said they were paying for a specific thing. Both sets of parents gave us money to use for the wedding and they didn't care where we spent it. It's been really easy that way. We combined the two amounts and are paying for the rest ourselves.

We are paying for our own. Unless someone offers I would budget for it.

You should plan to pay for all wedding expenses unless someone else offers. My FILs offered to pay for/plan but we originally put it in the budget to pay ourselves. My FMIL calls it the "groom's dinner" instead of rehearsal dinner.

There won't be an actual rehearsal and this even will double as the welcome party for out of town family.

They might offer, but you don't ask them. If it's you? Pizza and beer are just fine, with JUST your bridal party, no OOT people or any other extraneous guests.

I'm assuming FH and I will pay for our rehearsal dinner. It may just be pizza or something simple!

FILs are helping with the reception costs, so I certainly don't expect anything more!