Rehearsal Dinner...who gets invited??

I would say immediate family: parents, siblings and their SO's, bridal party and their SO's, and the officiant. Grandparents are nice too but not necessary. Kids are not necessary. Aunt and Uncle are not necessary.

I'd stick with your wedding party and their SOs, and your immediate family - siblings and their SOs, and both of your parents!

Yes to immediate family, bridal party and all the SO's. Don't invite the aunts and uncles. Grandparents are up to you.

Immediate family & SO, bridal party & SO

Okay. So are gifts still passed out at the rehearsal dinner even if everyone is not getting one ie immediate family not in wedding? I kinda want to prevent the whole "why don't we get gifts" thing.

The gifts are to thank your bridal party and they should be the only ones to receive gifts. Your siblings shouldn't be expecting gifts if they're not in the wedding.

I would only include the ones I'm closest to in my rehearsal dinner.

I would only include the ones I'm closest to in my rehearsal dinner.

I also heard about out of town guests? But that's just what I've heard.

All of our guests are OOT as well. We are inviting the officiant, wedding party and their SO/plus ones, parents and aunt/uncles. It'll be a fairly large group (appx. 50 people) so we decided to rent a large home and have a casual backyard rehearsal dinner/welcome event to avoid space issues.

I'll be giving gifts to the wedding party but to those that will be helping the day of the wedding. Like picking up food, setting up, etc. But keep in mind that I'm Vietnamese so our weddings consist of a lot of traditions and customs, bigger guest list, and two ceremonies. I think if you were to give gifts during the rehearsal dinner, everyone would understand why some people got it and not others.

I gave out the gifts at the end of the rehearsal. It wasn't a big show, I just went around and quietly thanked each member of the bp and handed them their gift.

Thanks all!!

Idk if we want to do all OOT guests because that will be everyone that we will be hosting the next day too lol.

@Mrs. Knolle I think that what I may do. I was planning to stand up and thank all then hand out gifts like at xmas but something more subtle sounds like the better plan if we are having people there that wont get gifts.

All of our guests were OOT (DW) so we invited everyone. Out of the 80 that came to our wedding about 50 came to the RD.

I gave out gifts the morning of the wedding. Presenting them at the RD always struck me as odd...

For me its going to be my parents, FH's parents and stepparents, both of our siblings, my grandparents (his are deceased), and then our wedding party, which is just an additional five people.

In your situation, I would say to invite your collective parents, grandparents, siblings, and then whoever is in the wedding party. I don't think you need to invite your aunt and uncle, and given that there are other aunts and uncles who would be left out, it's probably not worth the potential hurt feelings.

Were inviting wedding party, OOT guests and immediate family.

As everyone else has mentioned - parents, wedding party plus SO/kids, immediate family (brothers/sisters and their family), grandparents if you would like, and your officiant.

My FMIL has also decided to include OOT guests but this is definitely not required.

Regardless of how many people are attending, we plan to give our WP their gifts. We may do it as soon as the rehearsal is over so it isn't awkward.

This is not a party. It's a thank you to the people who took their time to come to the rehearsal.

BP and their SO's

Parents

Siblings

Officiant, if they're running the rehearsal.

Any more than this and it become a second reception, which it shouldn't be. The last thing you'll want by the day before your wedding is another major event. And it's another factor in that , "how did weddings get so expensive" discussion.

We're doing my bridal party and their so(all our siblings are in the bridal party), officiant and his wife, both parents, and grandparents

@Celia Milton that was exactly what I was discussing with my sister. If we invite more people than we will need to rent out a whole restaurant and that's more of a party and im not trying to do as much planning for a dinner as i am for the reception lol