Rehearsal Dinner Invite Help

I wouldn't invite the parents of an 18 year old if other aunts and uncles won't be invited.

Does he have his own car and is able get to and from the dinner on his own?


I think there’s a big difference between inviting the parents of someone in the wedding party, and other aunts and uncles. Surely they would understand .

They are from California and will be traveling to attend the wedding, which is in Western NY. I am just unsure that to do as he will not be 18 yet when invitations go out.

View Quoted Comment Personally I would invite at least one parent. 17 on the cusp of 18 is still quite young, especially if this is his first time doing a fancy event like a wedding. I think having a parent there, both for transportation and guidance would be best.

View Quoted Comment If they’re traveling, I do think you should invite all of them. They all traveled across the country for your wedding and I do think it would be a bit hurtful for the parents to not be invited to the dinner while their son is. I get that technically you don’t “have” to invite them because they’re not in the wedding but... I would do it anyway, as a courtesy.

I think you should invite his parents since it's not local for them. You do not have to invite your other aunts and uncles - i would think it's obvious why they are invited and others are not. Just don't mention it ahead of time - if someone finds out and is crabby about it just let it go because you didn't do anything wrong.

Usually you invite all out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner as a sign of appreciation for their traveling to your wedding. I would invite the 18 year olds parents. I feel quite certain he’s not paying for his travel expenses, so to leave out his parents is on the edge of rudeness. As far as the other aunts/uncles, if they are not at the rehearsal dinner but are at the wedding, I imagine they will understand if they know your cousin is actually in the wedding and that’s why only one aunt/uncle was at the rehearsal dinner.