Rehearsal dinner invitation- etiquette question

You shouldn't be the ones making the invitations because you aren't hosting it. Problem solved.

Would his mom be agreeable to paying for or contributing to something else wedding related? The cake? Sometimes you have to be untraditional in order to keep the peace.

They aren't tech savvy. So we're getting invitations off of etsy. They told us to pick the invitations.

That's a good idea, didn't think of that. I can suggest that to FH

Word it like this:

Please join us for a

Rehearsal Dinner

Honoring

Melissa and Scott

At

Location

Time

Please RSVP to Jane

By date at phone number

@K&D17

We would do that. But his dad and step mom want their names on the invitation.

I guess I could do just her first name for rsvps

@futuremrsTW Now it makes sense. Can you suggest you get together with them and set it up for them to type what they want? I feel like it's so hard to please everyone in this situation. Our invites will say "together with their families" to hopefully avoid this.

I do like that phrase! I will definitely put that out there, see what everyone thinks. Thank you!!

Maybe see if she'd like to contribute to something else wedding related? FH parents are divorced too and we had to find a way to keep the peace. His dad's helping pay for the venue. His mom and step dad are paying for the rehearsal dinner. My parents are paying for everyone else. All the invitations just say together with their families. Honestly though for the RD we're just word of mouth letting those invited know when and where

Holy crap, rehearsal dinners require invitations?

Mr. & Mrs Smith and Ms. Jones ---this would be my guess

I think FMIL needs to find something else to pay for, if his dad and step mom said it first they win... simple...

Pump the brakes on this puppy...you are supposed to send invitations for a RD?

I guess some do and some don't.

It's just something they wanted to do, send invitations for the rehearsal dinner.

Does they all still have the same last names? Does your FH's mom still have her married name or a different name? This would be how I'd word my invitations if my stepmom were still alive:

Mrs. Jane Potts, Mr Jim Doe and Mrs Mary Doe request the honor....

The woman's name goes first (mom) then dad & step mom. This can be used for the RD. Idk if this helps but thought I'd toss it into the mix.

You could put on the bottom of the invite hosted by mr and Mrs John smith and ms Jane Doe.

Formal, printed, emailed, or even handwritten RD invitations, are overkill. They are not necessary. Let's remember what an RD is -- it's completely optional, but it is now seen as a normal element of a conventional wedding. An RD is self-explanatory; invitations are oral, and those funding it need not see their names in print on an invitation. It is more than enough for the bride and/or groom to throw a shout out to the parties who contributed.

Those who are VIPs (and their spouses or SO's, including step parents) should be invited to the RD. All honor attendants and their spouses and/or SOs shuld be invited. It's a nice gesture to include grandparents who are in town for the wedding, as well.

That's all a Rehearsal Dinner is. Sometimes, brides just go overboard with things -- and printed RD invitations fall into that category of "overboard". Honestly, the rehearsal isn't mandatory, so neither is the follow up dinner. If you're having a rehearsal, you should host, at the very least, pizza/salad/wine/beer. Those who are invited will have been invited by you -- personally. Invitations? As I said, overkill.

Divorced, separated, married...whatever...if you want to stand up and thank the hosts, then go ahead. Do it by name and call it a night. It doesn't need to be this complicated.

@Centerpiece just made me feel so much better. I was totally with @Christina on that one... so confused.

Thanks for clearing that up!

Thanks everyone.

If his parents wish to pay for and send invitations then we're letting them.

Even if it's over kill for some. I'm not going to pick a fight over that.

They just wanted it done that way.