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Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Zoe, on August 28, 2019 at 10:24 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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I know I am overthinking this and just need some outside perspective.

The original plan for the rehearsal dinner was bridal party and plus ones and immediate family only. We have 11 BM and 11 GM so that already was an insane amount of people and my FMIL and her husband are graciously hosting it at a restaurant.

We recently decided to have my mom escorted down the aisle by my cousin - so now he is obviously in the wedding.

My question/concern is this. Is it rude to only invite the cousin to the rehearsal dinner? If we were to extend an invite to his family (my aunt and uncle and his siblings) it would add 6 people to the rehearsal dinner cost. It would then get complicated with me inviting some extended family but not other (this would only leave one aunt and uncle on my side that would NOT be invited) I just picture it being awkward because they are all traveling from out of town and will be staying together - so my cousin would just randomly be dipping out to go to a pre-wedding event that the rest of the group was not invited to.

Is that insanely rude or am I overthinking?? For reference the cousin is in his mid twenties.

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Latest activity by MrsHamm, on September 4, 2019 at 3:38 PM

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null · on August 28, 2019 at 10:27 AM
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I think you could invite the cousin on his own, he's an adult that's apart of the wedding party. Maybe include his partner (if he's dating someone). I don't think you're obligated to invite his whole family unit.
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Zoe · on August 28, 2019 at 10:30 AM
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He was given a plus one to the wedding but is not bringing someone. He could easily arrive with my mother as well so I'm not concerned about him finding a ride since he won't have a car in the area. Thank you for your perspective!
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 28, 2019 at 10:35 AM
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You would be perfectly fine to invite him on his own.
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Sara · on August 28, 2019 at 10:55 AM
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I agree that inviting him by himself (with a plus one if needed) is totally fine.
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Anne · on August 28, 2019 at 11:58 AM
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You can definitely just invite him! I'm in a similar situation with a younger cousin and I extended the invite to his parents (he's 11 so he doesn't have a girlfriend) but we kept it at that. We didn't invite his grandfather who is actually my uncle.
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Ivy ORP · on August 28, 2019 at 2:27 PM
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Since he is an adult with a role in the wedding, I would think it's perfectly fine to invite him on his own. He's going to the rehearsal without his parents anyway, right?
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Judith · on August 28, 2019 at 4:02 PM
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People who are escorted to their seats are honored guests, not part of the procession, but the last thing before it starts. And ushers who do just seating, not also groomsmen, a d wearing their own suits, need not attend the rehearsal or the dinner. Your choice. Readers, people who handle the guest book, ushers who are not also gm, greeters, none are actually wedding party.
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Fmv · on August 28, 2019 at 6:49 PM
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Hes an adult, he is the only one who should be invited. Only invite the people who are in the wedding and who need to be at the rehearsal. its keeps the cost way down and is easier that way
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Nicole · on August 29, 2019 at 2:40 PM
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You can invite the cousin on his own. He will need to come to the rehearsal so your extended family will expect him to be invited to the rehearsal dinner as well.
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MrsHamm · on September 4, 2019 at 3:38 PM
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I think you can just invite the cousin as he's an adult and in the wedding party. I have my wedding rehearsal dinner at the end of the month and we invited wedding party & their plus 1's, ushers & their plus 1's, and parents of bride and groom. My FH and I are both only children.
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