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Rehearsal dinner etiquette

BridalBethany, on March 1, 2017 at 7:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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We are paying our organist and bagpiper and singer to be at our rehearsal. I was under the impression we needed to invite them to the dinner as well but my mom said I probably don't have to. She said she's never been to a rehearsal before where musicians attend the dinner and doesn't think they would want to go with a family they don't know. I'm just wondering what the proper etiquette is because it would be great to save money and not invite to the dinner but I'd rather do the right thing.

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Latest activity by Bugcatcher, on March 2, 2017 at 11:48 AM

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Bemyguest · on March 1, 2017 at 7:40 PM
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Invite them. They probably will not come but you should invite them.
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Dreamer · on March 1, 2017 at 7:46 PM
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I've never been to a wedding rehearsal, that had musicians. And I sang professionally for the first time, at a wedding, almost 15 years ago.
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Michael V · on March 2, 2017 at 7:21 AM
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Your musicians are being compensated for their time. You do not need to invite them (pay for) their dinner as well at the rehearsal. They will get their meal at your reception if that is part of your contract. Best wishes!
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FutureMrsLittle · on March 2, 2017 at 9:53 AM
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I would say no you don't have too you are paying them for there time
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Susan · on March 2, 2017 at 10:02 AM
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I agree they do not need to be invited.
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Celia Milton · on March 2, 2017 at 10:04 AM
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Honestly, you don't have to, but it would be a nice gesture. They probably won't accept.

I also have never been at a rehearsal that had musicians there. There really is no reason if you have a coordinator or venue/church staffer who can cue them. There is definitely no reason to have the bagpiper there.
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Bugcatcher · on March 2, 2017 at 11:48 AM
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I'm inviting not only my bridal party but the pianist, clergy, coordinator, photographer, and the videographer. My venue does not hold many weddings. So everyone knows all the who, what, when, and whys. Having the photographer and videographer there I figured they will get to know who is who and their personalities for great pictures.
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